Dating violences

r/teenagers

2010.02.27 05:23 Meades_Loves_Memes r/teenagers

teenagers is the biggest community forum run by teenagers for teenagers. Our subreddit is primarily for discussions and memes that an average teenager would enjoy to discuss about. We do not have any age-restriction in place but do keep in mind this is targeted for users between the ages of 13 to 19. Parents, teachers, and the like are welcomed to participate and ask any questions!
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2008.03.19 17:17 Men's Rights :: Advocating for the social and legal equality of men and boys since 2008

At the most basic level, men's rights are the legal rights that are granted to men. However, any issue that pertains to men's relationship to society is also a topic suitable for this subreddit. Men's rights are influenced by the way men are perceived by others.
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2006.10.18 15:54 spez Reddit Science

This community is a place to share and discuss new scientific research. Read about the latest advances in astronomy, biology, medicine, physics, social science, and more. Find and submit new publications and popular science coverage of current research.
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2020.10.25 16:30 bosslessmindset RESPONSE TO THE RESPONSE: The ULTIMATE GUIDE to passing shit tests.

A response to: The ULTIMATE GUIDE to passing shit tests. This is some deeply misogynistic and dangerous bullshit. There’s no such thing as a ‘shit test’. If a girl tells you that she has a boyfriend, she doesn’t give out her number to strangers, she’s a lesbian, she’s not looking to date or most of the other things you call ‘classic shit tests’, it means she’s not interested and you should leave her alone immediately. IMMEDIATELY. And FYI, you really need to work on your fucked up attitude towards women if you expect one to ever want to date you. Sexual harassment is a crime and women are not interested in criminals. (Also, women are literally human beings and do not deserve to be harassed. Let’s say hypothetically that you were hitting on one of your bros. If he told you to stop, you’d stop, right? Why would you stop? Because you recognise that he’s a human being. Because you believe him when he says that he’s not interested. Because you recognise that it would be distressing for him to continue to be hit on after he’s already said that he’s not interested. So why would you not treat a woman with the same basic decency? …Yeah. You’re a misogynist, that’s why. Fuck you.)

MY RESPONSE: If you are going to make a comment such as above, use a real e-mail address and not leave everything one sided, it is a blatant sign of cowardice and I despise cowards. Especially since this coward's IP address still shows up.
There are many women and men that lie in daily interactions, if you have ever had a job or gone to school, you know people can and will lie to you.
Dating is no different - an attractive woman will get frequently hit on to the point where she will make up white lies to handle the situation better.
These white lies will be things such as:
Why would she do this? Well, because some men who want to date or 'be with her' will be aggressive to the point of violence. Thus, she will use her social intelligence and adapt a strategy of saying certain things to end the interaction better than when she tells the truth, aka telling a white lie.
I have personally seen situations where telling the truth or being too upfront gets you hurt. I was at a Carnival festival one year and we went to a club. This girl that was friends with my girl was constantly being hit on, she was also a drinker. Well, she also had a mouth on her and decided to berate a guy that was hitting on her, even swearing and telling him to "F himself". He decided to retaliate by swinging around with a knife and stabbed her right in the stomach. Long story short, I spent that night and morning at the hospital.
Over-all, no-one is telling anyone to harass another person. Use your social skills to decipher the situation.
Furthermore, in response to "Let’s say hypothetically that you were hitting on one of your bros. If he told you to stop, you’d stop, right? Why would you stop? Because you recognise that he’s a human being. Because you believe him when he says that he’s not interested." This is becoming a straw man argument. If you know your friend is not gay then don't hit on him. Just as how I would not sexually advance myself on a lesbian.
There is more, "And FYI, you really need to work on your fucked up attitude towards women if you expect one to ever want to date you." Of course the anonymous reply also has to have the involuntary celibate accusations. Why not? I am 6 ft, over 200+ pounds and can get as much dates as I want due to successes in my life. Check out this no gym body of mine for the past 7 and a half months.
And of course the blanket statement, "Yeah. You’re a misogynist, that’s why. Fuck you.)"
Everyone can say whatever they want behind a keyboard but most will never say it to your face. If you want to stand up for your ideals, then stand up for them in person as well.

BOTTOM LINE: You have a right to your opinion but don't be a coward about it nor spread misinformation.
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2020.10.25 16:29 SpasticChips Strange Phenomenon Surrounding our Moon

I'm creating a follow up post or a "Pt 2" about my first Our Moon is not a moon because I feel there's a lot of points that I missed, didn't elaborate on, a lot of you brought up some interesting things, it could've been better put altogether, and I'd like for it all to put be in one place for you to conveniently read, and do your own research with all the links provided above and below. So get comfy and grab some popcorn my fellow Redditors as this is going to be a long one. It took me little while to gather all these links and information for you guys, because in a world full of disinformation and censorship the people deserve to know. Enjoy!
I know I've titled these "Our Moon is not a moon" but what I think I mean by that is it's not a 100% natural moon through and through with nothing the least bit sus about it. Our moon is an enigma, it's easier explaining why it shouldn't exist versus why it does, ask any astronomer or planetary scientist who isn't mainstream (I say mainstream because we all know the mainstream media/science; anything really, only push forth their own narrative which more often than not benefits the elite/those in power and not us) and they'll tell you the same thing. The moon does in fact rotate, crazy right? Because if it didn't rotate and instead sat still in place as it orbited the Earth, people in different parts of the world in the Moons path would see different sides of the Moon. However it gives us the illusion of not rotating due to something called Synchronous Rotation: the Moon takes just as long to rotate on it's axis as it does to orbit the Earth, which is why we always see the same side. I was actually surprised when I found that out. The placement of the Moon is an interesting one to, I say placement because when viewed from on the ground of Earth and only Earth; the Moon and the Sun appear to be the exact size to create perfect eclipses that are amazing to witness if you're lucky enough to be in the path. In my opinion there's no way that occurred by chance. There's an old math problem by apparent "ancient geometers" of squaring the circle, this problem has been deemed "unsolvable", but there's something that no-one talks about. This "ancient unsolvable geometry question" has already been solved.
Now, onto the juicy stuff. Did you know that the United States of America has had a base on the Moon since 1979 that was allegedly destroyed by the Soviet Union? Sounds a little outlandish doesn't it, even for a "conspiracy theorist". Well the title of this document released by Wikileaks; a website who has never had to delete or take back any content it's posted, suggests that as far back as 1979 the U.S. has had a base on the Moon which the USSR apparently destroyed. Unfortunately it's not an electronic document so you're unable to read it's entire contents but if you're extremely interested and determined enough, it seems a Freedom of Information Act request or (FOIA) would be the only approach. If the title of this report is to be true then that just proves wars in space since 1979. Information on things relating to this topic isn't easy to find with all this censorship going on but it's by no means impossible, building bases on the lunar surface isn't out of the question for the government. A document from the governments own publishing office that dates back to 1966 talks about building bases on the Moon along with some other fascinating things. Dig even deeper and you can find things like this memorandum from the CIA's Electronic Reading Room that was addressed to the CIA director of the time that talks about a multitude of things. It's Subject alone reads "MILITARY THOUGHT (TOP SECRET): "The Role of Space Weapons in a Future War", by Lieutenant-General N. Korenevskiy" Here's an excerpt from the Memorandum: "Already, interest in the moon is not limited to a study of questions and a discussion of discovered potentialities. Specific projects are being worked out which propose the construction of various structures under the surface of the moon from the freight compartments of missiles, and also the employment of various versions of pneumatic structures. The U.S. Army Corps of Engineers, and also various American companies ("Martin", "Aerospace", etc.), are conducting a great deal of work in this direction." It's important to remember before diving in to this type of information: you really have to keep an open mind and think "is it really out of the realm of possibility that these types of things are happening behind closed doors?". All this political nonsense going on right now has completely captured the full attention of everyone in this subreddit right now, taking our focus off of things like what you're about to read in the next couple paragraphs. Things like this are happening you just have to know where to look.
Earlier on in the above paragraph we briefly touched on wars and weapons in space and I want to go back to that for another paragraph or two. (I know this isn't entirely about the moon but bear with me here). A declassified report by the Air Force Nuclear Weapons Center stored in the NSA's archives from 1959 talks about the capabilities of weapons in space and a plan they had called Project A119 in which they were going launch a nuclear weapon at the moon to test nuclear devices in space. There's also witness testimony from very credible people with extensive backgrounds to verify these claims. During the 1950's a Colonel Ross Dedrickson worked for the Atomic Energy Commission or the (AEC) and was responsible for maintaining the nuclear weapons stockpile, and accompanying security teams testing the security of the nuclear weapons with many other duties. Here's video testimony of him talking about that among other things. The retired Colonel had this to say about attempting to detonate nuclear weapons in space: "I learned about incidents involving nuclear weapons, and among these incidents were a couple of nuclear weapons sent to space that were destroyed by extraterrestrials... At the very end of the 70's and the early 80's, we attempted to put a nuclear weapon on the Moon and explode it for scientific measurements and other things, which was not acceptable to the extraterrestrials. They destroyed the weapon before it got to the Moon." I remember watching a video about a "Professor Robert Jacob" who talked about this with the same people; Serious Disclosure, not sure how credible they are but here's a video of him testifying saying that a "UFO shot beams of light at the nuclear missile disabling it". I'm not sure if it's the same nuclear missile they're talking about here but if it is, these extraterrestrials are making it quite clear they don't humans bringing their weapons into space.
This brings me to the Podesta emails dumped by Wikileaks that are only dated as early as 2015 talking about a war in space and extraterrestrials not tolerating violence on Earth or in space. The email was sent by Apollo 14 astronaut Dr. Edgar Mitchell and Dr. Carol Rosin, it states "Because the war in space is heating up, I felt you should be aware of several factors as you and I schedule our Skype talk. Remember, our nonviolent ETI from the contiguous universe are helping us bring zero point energy to Earth. They will not tolerate any forms of military violence on Earth or in space." With all this information in mind, it really shows just how in the dark they're keeping the public about this "war in space" that's apparently happening right under our noses. I had absolutely no idea about this, did you? From everything provided here it seems they've been preparing for this for a very longtime. This document from the CIA's Electronic Reading Room mentions the U.S. had been keeping tabs on the USSR's attempt at a "Manned Lunar Landing". the document states as follows: "In our most recent estimate on the Soviet space program, referenced above, we specifically considered the possibility that the USSR had underway a manned lunar landing program in competition with Project Apollo. The paragraphs from the estimate in which we dealt with this possibility appear below." Ten more pages of some eye opening information continue below with some of it redacted... Wonder what could've been said that had to be covered up before public release..
Lastly, members of a society some of you may not have heard of called Society for Planetary SETI Research or (SPSR) published a paper in the Journal of Space Exploration that talks about unusual structures on the far side of the Moon by the Paracelsus C crater stating: "The authors present an analysis of Apollo 15 and Lunar Reconnaissance Orbiter images of two unusual features in the crater Paracelsus C on the far side of the moon. At first glance these structures appear to be walls or towers on the lunar surface. By combining multiple images, we show the larger feature, oriented in a northeast/southwest direction, is not simply a wall but two walls on either side of a narrow valley or “passageway”. Using single image shape from shading and 3D terrain visualization we show in a computer-generated perspective view looking northeast that the southwest end appears to be the entrance to the passageway. A reverse angle view looking southwest shows the passageway ending at a rise of terrain at the other end, possibly leading underground." From everything within this what's essentially an article now, it seems pretty clear to me that there's a lot more activity on the Moon than we initially thought. I find it insane that they're able to have this information right under our noses yet no-one talks about it. If the mainstream media dropped all these documents on the news, the entire world would be in an uproar. If everything provided here is 100% factual then the public really ought to know.
In a world succumbing to censorship, information like this is never talked about by the mainstream media, and it's even harder to find on the internet. Journalists who try bringing this sort of thing to light such as the great Julian Assange, (who no-one seems to be talking about) is suffering the wrath of the Criminal "Justice" system. According the New York Post: (I know I'm gonna get trouble for using them but lets just hear them out) Julian Assange 'very high' suicide risk if extradited to US, psychiatrist tells court. But you don't see that stuff all over the face of the News. Instead we're pushed things meant to divide us and bring us fear so they can control us. The people shouldn't be scared of their government, the government should be afraid of its people. We the people have the right to know what's going on, on and around our planet.
If you've made it this far and have even skimmed through most of the links I've provided, hopefully I've opened your mind to some new possibilities in our world and I urge you to take the time to further your research into it. There's a lot out there happening in our world that we don't know about that could change everything. It's the fact that these things can change everything is what makes it so scary and hard to accept, so instead of keeping an open mind people will try to reject it and down play it because they've been living in this dystopia for so long. Anything that seems almost science fiction we can't seem to comprehend, everything I've stated in this what's now an "article" I guess? I personally believe to be true. The events in our world are an enigma in and of themselves, the people need to rise against the government if we want this to end..
P.S. I went way off topic but there was just so much information that I came across I had to throw it all in here and before I knew it I had an essay on my hands. Not sure how many characters Reddit allows in one post but I hope this all makes it, if it does I hope people actually take the time to read this.
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2020.10.25 16:20 jaygurnani TODAY IS DUSSHERA

On today's date, Shri Raam slayed Raavan in battle. Since then people have been celebrating a victory called Dussehra [Dasha-haraa]. As part of the celebrations, people in India burn an effigy of Raavan. As we do with other festivals, we must ask, and answer, this important question: What lesson is there in this festival for us living in this modern age?
Arya Samaj says the message is simple and clear. There is a Raavan living in each of us. That Raavan is in the form of violence and arrogance. One breeds the other. Arrogance gives way to violence, and a violative spirit strengthens arrogance. To rise above our animality, through our humanity and arrive at divinity, our Raam-like Soul must slay the Raavan-like violence that rocks us and destroys our peace. The way we burn the Raavan-effigy on the outside, we must burn the Raavanic vices inside of us. Without this parallel psychological killing and burning, the outside celebration and frolic is merely an annual sport that loses significance as the years pass by.
Rishi Dayananda urges us to make Dussehra a truly genuine holiday by us focusing on our violative and arrogant spirit and resolving on replacing such negativity with positive traits like tolerance and understanding. Raavan represents darkness. Raam is light incarnate. Replace Raavan with Raam in your life this Dussehra and let's celebrate. Happy holiday. Namaste!
DR SATISH PRAKASH
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2020.10.25 15:17 despisesunrise MGTOWs blame welfare and lack of violence against women for their dating failures

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2020.10.25 14:43 SpasticChips Our Moon is not a moon Pt 2

I'm creating a follow up post or a "Pt 2" about my first Our Moon is not a moon because I feel there's a lot of points that I missed, didn't elaborate on, a lot of you brought up some interesting things, it could've been better put altogether, and I'd like for it all to put be in one place for you to conveniently read, and do your own research with all the links provided above and below. So get comfy and grab some popcorn my fellow Redditors as this is going to be a long one. It took me little while to gather all these links and information for you guys, because in a world full of disinformation and censorship the people deserve to know. Enjoy!
I know I've titled these "Our Moon is not a moon" but what I think I mean by that is it's not a 100% natural moon through and through with nothing the least bit sus about it. Our moon is an enigma, it's easier explaining why it shouldn't exist versus why it does, ask any astronomer or planetary scientist who isn't mainstream (I say mainstream because we all know the mainstream media/science; anything really, only push forth their own narrative which more often than not benefits the elite/those in power and not us) and they'll tell you the same thing. The moon does in fact rotate, crazy right? Because if it didn't rotate and instead sat still in place as it orbited the Earth, people in different parts of the world in the Moons path would see different sides of the Moon. However it gives us the illusion of not rotating due to something called Synchronous Rotation: the Moon takes just as long to rotate on it's axis as it does to orbit the Earth, which is why we always see the same side. I was actually surprised when I found that out. The placement of the Moon is an interesting one to, I say placement because when viewed from on the ground of Earth and only Earth; the Moon and the Sun appear to be the exact size to create perfect eclipses that are amazing to witness if you're lucky enough to be in the path. In my opinion there's no way that occurred by chance. There's an old math problem by apparent "ancient geometers" of squaring the circle, this problem has been deemed "unsolvable", but there's something that no-one talks about. This "ancient unsolvable geometry question" has already been solved.
Now, onto the juicy stuff. Did you know that the United States of America has had a base on the Moon since 1979 that was allegedly destroyed by the Soviet Union? Sounds a little outlandish doesn't it, even for a "conspiracy theorist". Well the title of this document released by Wikileaks; a website who has never had to delete or take back any content it's posted, suggests that as far back as 1979 the U.S. has had a base on the Moon which the USSR apparently destroyed. Unfortunately it's not an electronic document so you're unable to read it's entire contents but if you're extremely interested and determined enough, it seems a Freedom of Information Act request or (FOIA) would be the only approach. If the title of this report is to be true then that just proves wars in space since 1979. Information on things relating to this topic isn't easy to find with all this censorship going on but it's by no means impossible, building bases on the lunar surface isn't out of the question for the government. A document from the governments own publishing office that dates back to 1966 talks about building bases on the Moon along with some other fascinating things. Dig even deeper and you can find things like this memorandum from the CIA's Electronic Reading Room that was addressed to the CIA director of the time that talks about a multitude of things. It's Subject alone reads "MILITARY THOUGHT (TOP SECRET): "The Role of Space Weapons in a Future War", by Lieutenant-General N. Korenevskiy" Here's an excerpt from the Memorandum: "Already, interest in the moon is not limited to a study of questions and a discussion of discovered potentialities. Specific projects are being worked out which propose the construction of various structures under the surface of the moon from the freight compartments of missiles, and also the employment of various versions of pneumatic structures. The U.S. Army Corps of Engineers, and also various American companies ("Martin", "Aerospace", etc.), are conducting a great deal of work in this direction." It's important to remember before diving in to this type of information: you really have to keep an open mind and think "is it really out of the realm of possibility that these types of things are happening behind closed doors?". All this political nonsense going on right now has completely captured the full attention of everyone in this subreddit right now, taking our focus off of things like what you're about to read in the next couple paragraphs. Things like this are happening you just have to know where to look.
Earlier on in the above paragraph we briefly touched on wars and weapons in space and I want to go back to that for another paragraph or two. (I know this isn't entirely about the moon but bear with me here). A declassified report by the Air Force Nuclear Weapons Center stored in the NSA's archives from 1959 talks about the capabilities of weapons in space and a plan they had called Project A119 in which they were going launch a nuclear weapon at the moon to test nuclear devices in space. There's also witness testimony from very credible people with extensive backgrounds to verify these claims. During the 1950's a Colonel Ross Dedrickson worked for the Atomic Energy Commission or the (AEC) and was responsible for maintaining the nuclear weapons stockpile, and accompanying security teams testing the security of the nuclear weapons with many other duties. Here's video testimony of him talking about that among other things. The retired Colonel had this to say about attempting to detonate nuclear weapons in space: "I learned about incidents involving nuclear weapons, and among these incidents were a couple of nuclear weapons sent to space that were destroyed by extraterrestrials... At the very end of the 70's and the early 80's, we attempted to put a nuclear weapon on the Moon and explode it for scientific measurements and other things, which was not acceptable to the extraterrestrials. They destroyed the weapon before it got to the Moon." I remember watching a video about a "Professor Robert Jacob" who talked about this with the same people; Serious Disclosure, not sure how credible they are but here's a video of him testifying saying that a "UFO shot beams of light at the nuclear missile disabling it". I'm not sure if it's the same nuclear missile they're talking about here but if it is, these extraterrestrials are making it quite clear they don't humans bringing their weapons into space.
This brings me to the Podesta emails dumped by Wikileaks that are only dated as early as 2015 talking about a war in space and extraterrestrials not tolerating violence on Earth or in space. The email was sent by Apollo 14 astronaut Dr. Edgar Mitchell and Dr. Carol Rosin, it states "Because the war in space is heating up, I felt you should be aware of several factors as you and I schedule our Skype talk. Remember, our nonviolent ETI from the contiguous universe are helping us bring zero point energy to Earth. They will not tolerate any forms of military violence on Earth or in space." With all this information in mind, it really shows just how in the dark they're keeping the public about this "war in space" that's apparently happening right under our noses. I had absolutely no idea about this, did you? From everything provided here it seems they've been preparing for this for a very longtime. This document from the CIA's Electronic Reading Room mentions the U.S. had been keeping tabs on the USSR's attempt at a "Manned Lunar Landing". the document states as follows: "In our most recent estimate on the Soviet space program, referenced above, we specifically considered the possibility that the USSR had underway a manned lunar landing program in competition with Project Apollo. The paragraphs from the estimate in which we dealt with this possibility appear below." Ten more pages of some eye opening information continue below with some of it redacted... Wonder what could've been said that had to be covered up before public release..
Lastly, members of a society some of you may not have heard of called Society for Planetary SETI Research or (SPSR) published a paper in the Journal of Space Exploration that talks about unusual structures on the far side of the Moon by the Paracelsus C crater stating: "The authors present an analysis of Apollo 15 and Lunar Reconnaissance Orbiter images of two unusual features in the crater Paracelsus C on the far side of the moon. At first glance these structures appear to be walls or towers on the lunar surface. By combining multiple images, we show the larger feature, oriented in a northeast/southwest direction, is not simply a wall but two walls on either side of a narrow valley or “passageway”. Using single image shape from shading and 3D terrain visualization we show in a computer-generated perspective view looking northeast that the southwest end appears to be the entrance to the passageway. A reverse angle view looking southwest shows the passageway ending at a rise of terrain at the other end, possibly leading underground." From everything within this what's essentially an article now, it seems pretty clear to me that there's a lot more activity on the Moon than we initially thought. I find it insane that they're able to have this information right under our noses yet no-one talks about it. If the mainstream media dropped all these documents on the news, the entire world would be in an uproar. If everything provided here is 100% factual then the public really ought to know.
In a world succumbing to censorship, information like this is never talked about by the mainstream media, and it's even harder to find on the internet. Journalists who try bringing this sort of thing to light such as the great Julian Assange, (who no-one seems to be talking about) is suffering the wrath of the Criminal "Justice" system. According the New York Post: (I know I'm gonna get trouble for using them but lets just hear them out) Julian Assange 'very high' suicide risk if extradited to US, psychiatrist tells court. But you don't see that stuff all over the face of the News. Instead we're pushed things meant to divide us and bring us fear so they can control us. The people shouldn't be scared of their government, the government should be afraid of its people. We the people have the right to know what's going on, on and around our planet.
If you've made it this far and have even skimmed through most of the links I've provided, hopefully I've opened your mind to some new possibilities in our world and I urge you to take the time to further your research into it. There's a lot out there happening in our world that we don't know about that could change everything. It's the fact that these things can change everything is what makes it so scary and hard to accept, so instead of keeping an open mind people will try to reject it and down play it because they've been living in this dystopia for so long. Anything that seems almost science fiction we can't seem to comprehend, everything I've stated in this what's now an "article" I guess? I personally believe to be true. The events in our world are an enigma in and of themselves, the people need to rise against the government if we want this to end..
P.S. I went way off topic but there was just so much information that I came across I had to throw it all in here and before I knew it I had an essay on my hands. Not sure how many characters Reddit allows in one post but I hope this all makes it, if it does I hope people actually take the time to read this.
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2020.10.25 14:39 xretaetna My boyfriend and I fight every week (abuse?)

My boyfriend and I are each other’s firsts. I am his first girlfriend (22yo) and he is my first boyfriend (22yo). We have been dating for 1 year and we moved in together at 7 months. We knew there would be challenges, but these challenges have been arising every week, some weeks even every 2 days. In the beginning, our fights were very abusive. We would threaten to leave each other and never come back and we would break things out of anger and frustration. Sometimes he would go to the extent to cut his wrists and arms. Things so got out of hand way too often that I went online and seeked local counseling for help. I decided to talk to him one day about my concerns. I told him that I wanted us to stop with our inappropriate actions and reflect deeply on our abuses. We ended up writing down on a piece of paper the abuses that we wanted to end and the goals that we had. We told ourselves that we should strive to never do anything like it again and we promised to be gentle and calm with each other no matter what. I believed in him and in the paper.
Then come the following week, when we would have a quarrel again. Despite the freshly written paper and promises, it starts all over again. This time it was just him continuing it (though he told me that I influenced him in all of it.) He screamed at the top of his lungs, ripped his shirts, threw things, and even damaged the walls of our rental unit. Witnessing this, I start bawling my eyes out, though this only infuriated him even more. “Please stop crying. Why are you crying?! Do you want me to hurt myself again??!” We managed to calm down eventually and I voiced my concerns again. I didn’t want to be an abusive relationship and I was thinking of ending it. He apologized for everything again... and told me that he valued me more than anything again... He vowed to me that he would be gentle and always comfort me whenever I cry.
Then come the next few days when we would argue again... It was quiet and calm this time, though there was a lot of tension and aggression. He slammed the table and stomped the ground. I asked him if he could be gentler and he got even further infuriated again...“No I cannot be gentle with you because you don’t deserve my kindness.” I start bawling and the cycle begins all over again. This time, the violence largely stopped. The most violent he would get is ripping up his shirt.
We had just settled down from another fight as I am writing this. Our argument started at 9PM and it is now around 6:30 AM. He is sleeping next to me on the bed and his arm is bleeding because he had just given himself a cut. We had been drinking casually throughout the night, when a heated conversation broke through. I had drank more than him and I said a few things I should not have said. We try talking calmly but it got more and more intense. It got even worse when I couldn’t even remember what we were talking about. He got really frustrated and mad when I start crying. He got extremely angry when I made noises while crying. So angry to the point where he broke his gold necklace that I had gifted him and cut his arm with it.
At this point, I don’t even know what to do. I have had many thoughts of breaking it off with him, but I can’t get myself to do so. Because despite all of this trauma and stress, I still find myself feeling like the happiest and luckiest girl in the world with him. He told me he has quit all the drugs that he was doing for me, he stopped watching porn for me, he stopped talking to all his girl friends for me, and he even unfollowed girls that I felt insecure about for me. I’m just sad that in the midst of all his effort and energy, I also feel like the loneliest and saddest girl ever.
Any advice from you guys would greatly help. Please and thank you!
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2020.10.25 11:39 Impressive_owl20 I want to experience sex as an act of love

I was together with my ex-boyfriend for eight years. Our sex life changed drastically in that time span, and porn was one of the contributing factors.
At the beginning of our relationship, the sex I had with my boyfriend was enjoyable. Being each other’s “firsts”, we discovered sex together and had a lot of fun on the way.
[This post will contain some sexual descriptions, please skip it if reading that triggers you.]
Over time, something changed. Both me and my boyfriend used to watch porn, but the stuff he was into was much more hardcore. Even before he had unlimited access to porn (which happened quite “late”, when he was 19), he had what I’ll call a wide array of interests and a curious mind. With porn at his disposal, his curiosity skyrocketed. He got into BDSM and we even tried a couple of things, but were ultimately severely mismatched in that regard. I didn’t want to experience pain and I also wasn’t happy doling it out.
Sex changed from something we experienced together, for our mutual pleasure, into a performance where I was clearly lacking. I could sense that he was frustrated with my “vanilla” preferences and looked down on them as boring and uncreative, while I resented him for the scenarios he was into.
I used to love to give my ex-boyfriend long, drawn-out blowjobs, and I was quite skillful at it, but over time he came to prefer porn style face-fucking. It was, at best, uncomfortable for me and at worst painful and degrading.
The penetrative sex we had…superficially, it was quite safe and vanilla, mainly missionary. But the atmosphere had changed drastically. My ex started to call me names while we were having sex, “slut”, “dumb whore”, “dirty” etc. He would sometimes squeeze my throat or do other porn-inspired actions. One time he tried to “direct” me while we were having sex, as if he was a porn director trying to find my perfect angles. He seemed unable to orgasm unless there was an element of degradation and “play-acted” abuse involved. I still remember the one time we had sex where his face seemed to be a mask of hatred.
I found all of this terribly depressing, but I thought it was a compromise I could do, since I wasn’t ready to fully enter BDSM territory. Something like names I could cope with. There’s no harm or violence in being called names, right?
Wrong. So very, very wrong.
Sex turned into a tiresome chore for me, something I thought I had to endure to keep the relationship alive. I tolerated the name-calling and couldn’t see the immediate, poisonous effect it was having on me. Sex became completely centered on HIS pleasure…my ex was unable to give me orgasms because he couldn’t, or rather didn’t, follow my directions. I need gentle stimulation, and not just for two minutes, but he was frustrated with the boring repetitiveness and was too rough, too impatient. I knew that he was thinking of the easy and spectacular orgasms he saw in porn. I faked my orgasms to get everything over with.
(So, ironically, he got exactly what he wanted. A performance for his viewing pleasure).
Unbeknown to me, my boyfriend also started to cheat on me. He had sex with any woman who was willing, later claiming he resented that fact that he should only have “mediocre sex with one person for the rest of his life”. He was insatiable and wanted to experience EVERYTHING with AS MANY PEOPLE AS POSSIBLE. (His words).
I’m ashamed I didn’t immediately dump him when I became aware of this, but at some point, I did find my backbone and self-love and kicked him to the curb. Cue surprised Pikachu face: he was completely blindsided by my decision. I didn’t expect his reaction, because our relationship didn’t feel very loving anymore… but he crashed hard and was inconsolable for a long time, so he must have found some value in it.
So far, I haven’t entered the dating pool again.
The one thing I fantasize about more than anything else, the one thing that seems quite out of reach… is experiencing sex as an act of love. Being cherished instead of degraded. Sex as a means of expressing love in the most intimate way possible. Letting someone into your body is such a vulnerable, intimate thing – I want the guy I’m with not able to believe his LUCK and worship me instead of calling me a “whore” for giving him pleasure.
I hope that this is an attainable dream.
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2020.10.25 09:32 Expert-Spend I feel so alone, even though I’ve survived abuse every single time it’s happened to me, without breaking. Is it normal to feel like I deserve a support system?

I’ll begin with a conversation with my mother, who we’ll call J, and we’ll extend it afterwards.
Yesterday, I was speaking to J, about how she and my aunt dehumanizing transgender women, had hurt me. I followed up in saying, about my aunt specifically, “It’s like, fk her, then,” in a calm tone. J responded, “Okay. Fk you, too!” And she later said, about my financial situation, “You’re so focused on, ‘I have to make money, I have to make money’. You’re not seeing that, if I drop dead tomorrow, where will you go? If you don’t have somewhere to go, you’ll be staying with (my aunt - who has threatened physical abuse toward me twice and enables her abusive husband, and also gaslit CPS into thinking she’s supportive of me when J was found unfit in 2011, and I was yelled at for sticking by J, because I knew I would’ve went from one prison to the next, by moving in with my aunt) or (my godparents - who I barely know and who have only helped me on one occasion, and who are also religious extremists, the same way my ‘family’ are).” I replied to J, “You have people!” You’re older than me! I don’t have anybody.” And of course, as her way of gaslighting, she screamed, “Yes you do!” And when I mentioned how I didn’t “want to stay with them, because I don’t want them to feel like I’m using them,” she said, “Well, they’ll have to get over it, then!” And she treated my time in a homeless shelter, during my escape to New York (to get away from J, who is a narcissistic sociopath with Munchausen’s by proxy, and a known pathological liar) as, “You did that for two days,” and “If you’re in a shelter, you won’t be able to make money. You won’t be able to get a job. And all those dreams you had, will be gone.” Then, she manipulated the conversation into how she felt, without acknowledging the fact that my family has told me I don’t need to constantly be around her; that, if I “don’t like it, he can leave!”, that “You’re no longer her child. You’re her son. She did her job.”, and instead chose to form an alliance with my secondary distant cousin who (when driving me to his location from the shelter) treated me the same way my former friend did, when he also attempted to abandon me in New York—while he was drunk driving. He also has admitted to me twice that, “I keep a gun under my (car) seat.” And he has pulled a knife on my other cousin and myself, while we were teenagers, because he felt we were provoking him—when, in reality, the two of us were joking and laughing about an unrelated subject—which is what a separate cousin did to me, specifically, and then gaslit the police into believing him when they took him aside in February 2011; I was fourteen years old, and they were thirteen; and we were told to “Just behave, until she gets home”.
My secondary cousin is also a covert narcissist who’s homophobic, desperate to “out” me because my “family” has been trying to “make him say he’s gay”, for sixteen years. Followed by the fact that, my mother reported me as a Missing Person, when I was safe in New York the entire time, and was even cited as “At Risk For Domestic Violence” by a hospital in another location, who later did not write that on my digital hospital record—only my printed record, which my former friend (who later attempted to commit fraud toward me, after abandoning me—and I later cancelled the card) kept from me and gaslit me into thinking I had all my documentation. People never support me the way I hope they do, and then those same people end up seeing me as toxic. And when I explain my turbulence with narcissists, to others, I’m told, “You make excuses to stay there (at my present location).” Even my former fiancé (who has borderline personality disorder—which a therapist told me, based on me explaining his behavior toward me and others he’s hurt), commended me for leaving and then replied, “You should’ve never went back,” yet nobody has ever financially helped me—even J would refuse to allow me to move out, three separate times in the last three years, and my trip to New York was number four.
I’m a poet, author, musician, and digital content creator. I’ve been ostracized from people who invite me to perform at different venues, while being disrespected by strangers on the internet at the time; and especially while I dealt with leaving three former lovers I’d dated at the same time; and on top of that, while being the target of familial abuse at home, and those same abusers ask why my lovers haven’t visited us—while trying to expose my sexuality, because they think I’m gay. Even though I’m not, and I keep my love life private because it’s contentious for my family to hear about LGBT people—it triggers their anger issues and paranoia, and I then remember how my aunt victim shamed me for dating my former fiancé again, after we ended the first time around. And I also will never forgive my “family” who gaslit me into thinking I posted a revenge p***ography tape I was blackmailed into sharing, while the lover who blackmailed me, asked for my password and shared said tape on social media. And I spent two months attempting to file, for a restraining order, against this person. When I was very close into receiving the order, they never called me back. So, I decided to let it go and move on, without pursuing legal action.
The police always fail me, I’m a black man, I’m LGBT, my mother’s and thine own abuser will be released from prison in four years, and then I also have to worry about finding somewhere to live and figuring out how to obtain resources, because the people who help veer me toward them, end up cutting me out their lives also. And then I feel like I need to keep all this privatized because I’ve already been silenced and threatened for exposing my family on social media. I’ve also decided to take a two month break from social media, every year, to redirect my time toward maintaining my peace and getting my life together, because nobody will ever help me escape and I’m an adult who wants a life of his own, so I’ll have to grow a pair and fall in line.
I spent years thinking I needed to be married at twenty one years old; carpooling with my spouse everywhere; living between the States and England, with multiple streams of income, so that I never went back to my “family” again, and never had to live off someone else. I’m twenty four years old now, and feel like I failed at life because I’m being offered performances at venues; the narcissists who “employ” me are switching up on me; while denying me any publicity for my work; while they are passive aggressive toward me with snide remarks about how, “I didn’t want him to think I was an opportunist.” Yet, if I leave the venue without alerting anyone because “knowing where all these bones are buried” is exhausting me; then the narcissist runs after me, begging for my return—and then the cycle begins again. I told J yesterday, that I will not be performing at those venues any longer. It was already draining for me last year, when “the narcissist” failed to speak about how my work has impacted him, and how much he has seen my growth—because, in my tenth anniversary tribute, that I asked “TN” to appear in, he took that one minute of footage to promote his two venues. In which he is only a host and employee, not the owner of both.
I let people in, then they blame me for ending the friendship, after a number of years, which was too long anyway. And every time I speak about how those lost friendships affected me, I’m silenced into not speaking about them and even if I had a relationship, I’m later gaslit; threatened; or blackmailed, into accepting the loss of association with them.
I mentioned my former long term significant other wanting to buy an apartment with me, after moving back to my locale. J said he, “Would’ve left you high and dry.” And then repeated what I’d just mentioned, about this person living, “in the Trump supporting, Pennsylvania countryside.” Yet, J will never realize the same person she’s disrespecting, is also the same person as her sister and my aforementioned cousins, who are also the same way as she. Yet, yesterday, I told her to her face that I hate how she enables my cousin and allows him to be overtly abusive toward me in multiple ways—which I said, was my reasoning behind, my five day move to New York.
I’ve always wanted to escape my family. I’ve been told they’re “the same thing as an abusive marriage”. I just want to leave before my cousin vandalizes my property, which J admitted to my face and I have it on my personally recorded footage.
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2020.10.25 08:49 Helpsavemykids How Identity Theft and Neglect to help Abused Children and Great father turns into a Nightmare From SATANS LEADERSHIP. “Against All ODDS

I’m Ronald Stefan Jones African American,DOB 09/06/1988 I played football basketball baseball and track loves animals and riding horses n being outdoors ALWYS will anyone even when I’m down and out myself and ALWYS thinks of others before himself, and hardest worker you have ever met and has been told that by hundreds of people and where do I get my work ethic from. Son of father a David Harold Crowley born in Missouri and Kim Jones born in OHIO, Brother of Kevin Lamar Crowley birth name Kevin Demetrius Jones 3 STATE CHAMPION MADEIRA SOCCER CINCINNATI, 2 PLACE STATE CHAMPION in OH wrestling in high school from Cincinnati OH, I’m currently living in Fargo ND. I am a father of FOUR beautiful kids “GRACELYN TWIN”,GRACEYLN DAVENPORT BEYAN 3yrs3mnths,RONALD JONES Jr 2yrs2mnths,LILY NICOLE DAVENPORT 9mnths old. There Mother Susan Davenport Beyan along with Christopher Alexander Foster and KOLBY AMOS BEYAN”Kalamazoo Michigan” AND OTHERS OF Colorado Springs CO are part of a MAJOR IDENTITY THEFT RING that spreads across the whole country MONEY LAUNDERING,CHILDKIDNAPPING, SAFE HOUSES,CHILD ABUSE/ENDANGEREMENT, WELFARE FRAUD,BANK FRAUD,STEALING INMATES SSN’s TO COMMIT CRIMES AND BUY CARS HOUSES THEN SWITCH BACK APON RELEASE,INSURANCE FRAUD HOME/AUTO,UNEMPLOYMENT FRAUD,IDENTITY THEFT/FRAUD,GOVT FRAUD,DRUGS, STOLEN GUNS FROM US AIR FORCE AND US ARMY FRUAD/SCAMS IDENTIFY, and part of the GANGS “BLOODS” “GD’s” “VICELORDS” have kidnapped my kids and ruined my life as I know it. I have been doing concrete for 8 years since leaving the Army in Fort Carson CO and where I met THE DEVIL on the way OUT. Nine years later after a long 8yr relationship with beautiful Jolsey Marie Pierce of New Rockford ND wonderful Grandmother CAROL PIERCE AND EX VIETNAM VET GREAT GRAND FATHER JEROME “CHEETAH”PIERCE. Susan’s Plan was seeded and ready to ACT. She called me saying Gracie is in danger and would like to have a family and kids so I VOLUNTEERED TO HELP moved her up to Fargo ND and had two babies back to back and raising her 3 children. Worked 60 70 hours weekly -35 to 100 6 or 7 days a week to provide for everyone. After my son JR was born July 16,2018 she ran off with my kids while at work and then the NIGHTMARE. I got a job at the Air Force Academy in Colorado Springs doing concrete at the stadium for 39.50 with Billy Shipley Concrete,and Susan Chris we’re taking my pay checks and making fake ones and take voiding mine out and re depositing with my real checks Susan writing my name and putting In Christopher Account and stole over 20,000$ and nothing has been done bout it. Contacted Colorado Springs Sheriff/Police, Manitou Springs, Attorney General,FBI,Dpt if Justice of Colorado and FARGO Sheriff/Police,FBI,ATF, Attorney General, JOB SERVICE UNEMPLOYMENT FRAUD Of CO/ND, Dpt of Justice, and FTC. I am being targeted and nothing done because of African American.Also contacted all into even us “School Zones” taken to jail and paid bail and NOT EVEN ON RECORD BEING IN CASS COUNTY JAIL ND . Involving Unemployment North Dakota, RADIO FREQUENCY HACKING OF 20 PHONES SERVICES VERIZON,STRAIGHT TALK,METROPCS,BANK FRUAD GREEN DOT BANK, METABANK,WELLS FARGO,FIRST INTERNATIONAL BANK AND TRUST, RAMSEY NATIONAL BANK, ANB BANK COLORADO,LIFELOCK 360 MILLION DOLLAR PROTECTION, DEFAMATION, ALIENATING, SLANDER, FAKE POLICE BOLOS ON WEST FARGO POLICE FACEBOOK, GANG STALKING, TAX FRAUD, TAKING OUT DEMAND DEPOSIT ACCOUNTS,WORST OF ALL KIDNAPPED TERMINATED RIGHTS AND ADOPTED MY KIDS OUT. Susan says she loves Me after halfway through the summer ran off again. So i bring for the 3rd time to Fargo after job ended and got Apt. SUSAN went into my All Finish Concrete Direct Deposit and switched my pay dates to make it look like I moved into the apt on OCT 11,2019 but really bought plane ticket to fly out the 18th and Moved into on 18 not the 11th. She has been stealing Money from me since October 2017 when I first brought her and her kids to Fargo for a Family and to have kids like she ALWYS wanted.. Her six yr old Charles Davenport has some behavior problems but most part GREAT SMILE GREAT KID BUT A DARKSIDE, Master Manipulator, Evil in the SOUL, hits Gracie Kicks her in the face when I was bringing in groceries almost put her through glass door frame, then hits my son JR with Bubble wond razor sharp cut on his face SUSAN DOES NOTHING. When I was bringing him to get help last week in September 2019 after a week of hell throwing dvds cases at kids and adults and saying he hated us 300 times I decided to take it upon my self after repeated cries to Susan to get help from anyone she declined. So I drove 16 hours to Back to Colorado and Susan tried to KILL US TWICE!! And has insurance policies on GRACIE JR AND ME. She had a plastic piece above the driver side tire rip off and almost puncture tire “blamed auto mechanics”and PURPOSELY DIDNT PUT ENOUGH GAS IN SO WE WOULD RUN OUT AND I DROVE 10 to 15 miles under SPEED LIMIT FOR 30 MILES AND HAD THE ANGELS WITH ME AND STAYED ON THE SIDE OF INTERSTATE AND SUSAN DIDNT HAVE A CARE AT ALL AND SLEPT”EVIL AND DISGUSTING”. We were also being followed I noticed a truck when we switched over at the gas station when she didn’t put enough gas in and 5 miles into the ride again there was work truck and that work truck stayed behind us and took the same exit when we got gas FINALLY and made sure that we was at least 100 yards or so when we reached HEAVEN the gas station “THE ANGELS KEPT US SAFE”. Susan has been listening to all my calls and reads all my text messages before I send using Radio Frequency,computer,or a mobile device. I have mad multiple recordings of where u see and hear so much interference you have to scream into the phone to communicate and hear crackling notices, heavy breathing, tapping,and Strange noises that are just not normal. They hack into every email I create 20+ and changed passwords 50+ and got different email addresses YAHOO,GOOGLE, and HOTMAIL. Even when I switch the passwords 6 times in a ten minute period I will get a NOTIFICATION OF PASSWORD CHANGED RIGHT WHEN BEFORE IT SAID PASSWORD SUCCESSFULLY CHANGED. I am currently LOCKED out of my phone and I purchased this September 22,2020 and have been locked out since September 8,2020. This has been my 20th phone I have boughten since January 2019 and have to another. She accesses all my bank accounts and even can get paid through Direct Deposit without the Employer knowing Ask ALL FINISH CONCRETE FARGO ND and steal my paychecks. Also when I purchase new pre-paid cards there not being put on record even when I put money on them and register and activate some how Susan knows how to clear them out the system and use them to steal my Unemployment and file claims in my name and card in my name without getting noticed and I’m to blame because there is no evidence of someone else “SUSAN” doing it or will believe ME that’s why as of October 10, 2020 and first got the overpayment debt The week of 10/4/2020 to 10/10/2020 icurrently OWE $5,400 to UNEMPLOYMENT NORTH DAKOTA. And she took out a claim 9/18/2020 worth $900 more than my Regular Claim of $8165. My Regular Claim was effective 8/9/2020 and claim date filed 8/10/2020 was on my “CORESPONDENCE” too and now those dates are gone and it’s says dates 8/6/2020 to 8/11/2020 and for some reason Job Service has me taking out a PUA claim 8/9/2020 and PUA claim 4/12/2020 THATS why I OWE $5400, but says nothing about the claim filed 9/18/2020 which WAS NOT ME AND NOT EVEN IN THE CORESPONDENCE SAYS CLAIMED FILED 8/9/2020 but still have to pay. And my BENEFIT WAGE 314 less than half of what I should be being paid and have GOTTEN NOT EVEN ONE PANDEMIC BENEFIT AND WAS TOLD I WOULD GET 0 or 1 LOST WAGES AND I GOT 4 and A WEEK LATER HAVE OR IT BACK ALONG WITH THE REGULAR BENEFITS OF 6 weeks but had to pay previous overpayment which is fine from 2011 but now pay $5,400. There is a problem too I paid 314 8/15/2020my payment I got they took it all and 200 from the next payment so I got paid $1148/25/2020. I got paid in full the next week meaning my over payment was cleared just need to pay the interest out of pocket but the total from a letter of JOB SERVICE SAYS MY OVER PAYMENT TOTAL WAS $674.85 and interest 228.96 and 314+200 equals 514 NOT 674 and I’ve told them over and over again even the overpayment division and I was told it was right. I haven’t been compensated for any of the lost money or damage to mental health or received any assistance from anyone at all and left to do all the investigation day and night all by myself and found out a lot of incriminating evidence and show it to law enforcement and tell and still not one report made and in fact been sent to mental psych wards as law enforcement “LITERALLY LAUGHS AT ME”. All my pictures of my children have been deleted and EVEN WHEN SUSAN ON FATHERS DAY WHICH I PAID FOR SAYS “ THANKS FOR STEPPING UP AND RASING KIDS” [DELETED] along with 6 or 7 Facebook accounts and switches the dates on them to cover up her fraud. Susan left a video on my RONALD JONES COLORADO Facebook of a video. Where Gracie is sitting on the floor and my “YOU CAN HEAR IN THE FIRST 15 SECONDS IS BEING BEATING BY HER SIX YR OLD CHARLES” AND THEN KISSES ANOTHER GUY “CHRISTOPHER ALEXANDER FOSTER”AT THE END. IM DOING SNOW REMOVAL IN NORTH DAKOTA AT THE TIME AND THE VIDEO WAS SENT TO AS I WAS LEAVING ALL FINSIH PARKNG LOT IN A SKID STEER FOR 26 HOURS STRAIGHT SNOW JOB. In that video Susan says TELLS GRACIE SAY “HI DADDY AND SHE DOESNT EVEN POINT OR SAY IT” TO THE GUY THERE SHE POINTS TO THE DOOR WHERE SHE KNOWS ME RONALD STEFAN JONES IS OUT IN THE WORLD SOMEWHERE HER PROTECTOR HER GUARDIAN ANGEL AND HER FATHER AND RONALD JONES JR AND LILY NICOLE. I HAVE NEVER SEEN A 5 MONTH OLD BOY AFTER SHE RAN OFF WITH THEM THREE MONTHS AFTER JRS BIRTH HAVE MORE SCRATCHES ON HIS FACE AND BLAMED “MY SON” FOR CRAWLING UNDER THE BED. WHY WOULD A CHILD CRAWL UNDER A BED OVER AND OVER WHEN HE IS GETTING HURT? AND WHY DIDN’T YOU PUT SOMETHING UP TO PREVENT HIM FROM DOING THAT BECAUSE IT WAS “INTENTIONAL AND DELIBERATELY DONE!!! WHY IS THERE A PICTURE OF GRACELYN BEATING BEYOND RECOGNITION AS BAD AS “ POOR GOD BLESS HIS SOUL EMMIT TILL” ON SUSAN REAL FACEBOOK OR SOME FOLDER WHERE 900 PHOTOS ARE HELD EVEN THOSE THAT CAME FROM MY PHONE THAT GOT DELETED AND NEVER SHARED. SUSAN IS WITHOUT DOUBT THE CRUELEST MOST EVIL SADISTIC GREED DRIVEN OVER MONEY MOTHER I HAVE EVER WITNESSED AND NEVER IN MY ENTIRE LIFE WANT TO SEE AGAIN AND NEEDS TO BE PUT INTO A FEDERAL PRISON IMMEDIATELY AND NEVER LET OUT ALONG WITH HER COUNTERPARTS. SUSAN USES 8 DIFFERENT NAMES 1.SUSAN NANCY DAVENPORT, 2.SUSAN DAVENPORT,3.SUSAN N DAVENPORT, 4.SUSAN DAVENPORTBEYAN, 5.SUSAN DAVENPORT BEYAN, 6.SUSAN N DAVENPORT BEYAN,7.SUSAN NANCY DAVENPORT BEYAN,8.SUSAN BEYAN. The Whereabouts of GraCelyn’s identical twin are unknown. I realized this when Susan left November 4 2019 after her stolen care policy scams that she pulls for EXTRA MONEY. I was on the couch and somehow got to be a friend of Susan’s on her facebook and saw the sick DISGUSTING PHOTO OF GRACIE BEATEN BEYOND RECOGNITION I SAW THE PICTURE THAT SUSANS TAKES WITH ALL THE FAMILY WITHOUT ME OF COURSE. THEY WERE SITTING ON HER MOTHERS COUCH GRACIE ON ONE ARM SUSAN HOLDING MY SON JR CHARLES AND HER 10 yr old, I WAS FOR 3 MNTHS OF HIS LIFE AT 3140 Navigation Dr CO Springs. Gracie was wearing “PINK FLOWER SHIRT,BLUE JEAN SHORTS, AND BROWN SANDLES . ON THE OTHER ARM “ BEHOLD FROM THE DEPTHS GRACIE’S IDENTICAL TWIN WEARING THE EXCACT SAME OUTFIT WITH NO MIRROR!!!!!!”. I ALSO NOTICED WHEN I WAS LOOKING AT PHOTOS WHEN WE GOT BACK 3010 7th St W WEST FARGO ND GRACIE WOULD HAVE AN EARINGS IN BOTH EARS AND HER TWIN WOULD HAVE ONLY ONE OR ONE IN THE LEFT AND THE OTHER CHILD IN THE RIGHT TO TELL THE APART. The story of Susan story shakes me to the core. Jim/James McCormick the father of 8 as I’m told by Susan and DOESNT care to take care of any of them a true “DeadBeat” as I’m called left a little girl in the back yard and when returned that young girl had been hit by a NailGun or fell and a 6 inch screw or nail was inbeded in her skull leaving her mentally disabled for her remaining life becoming The lords untold stories of bad parenting. All for the love of check from Social Security “SICK AND EVIL”. That’s why GRACIE ALWAys HOLDS ME TIGHT WHEN FIREWORKS GOES OFF AND SICK AND DISGUSTING SUSAN WOULD PUT CREAM ON GRACIE SUPPOSED TO BE FOR EGZMA BUT AFTER SHE LEFT IN NOVEMBER AND CLEANING THE HOUSE FOR THE SECOND TIME TO MOVE OUT AFTER MY MAILBOX WAS BROKEN INTO AND BANK CARDS TAKEN OUT AND POLICE WROTE MENTALLY ILL AND PODWER SUBSTANCE WHEN INTOLD THEM IT WAS BROKEN INTO AND MAIL RIPPED OPEN SO I TOOK THE EVICTION COMPLETEING SUSANS ULTIMATE PLAN. I PULLED BACK THE LABEL IT WASN’T EVEN TESTED ON ANIMALS NOR TESTED ON CHILDREN AND THE MOST SICKEST PART MADE CHILDREN MENTALLY IMPAIRED AND STUNTED THEIR GROWTH AND THAT’S WHY SUSAN NEVER BOUGHT SHOES BIG ENOUGH FOR GRACIE AND I HAD TO STEP IN AND SAY THATS ENOUGH AND I HAVE NEVER “SEEN A LITTLE GIRL SO HAPPY FOR HER PICK WHITE STRIPPED ADIDDA’S” OR BABY BOI JR’S JORDANS THAT I NEVER GOT TO SEE HIM WHERE EXCEPT WHEN I PUT THEM ON AND LACED THEM UP AND THE LAST TIME I EVER SEEN EITHER OF THEM AND MY BABY GIRL LILY. All Finish Concrete still won’t come clean and how the payments where made in early October and September and tell me I’m a liar and try and make me believe they paid me. Their wages don’t even add up nor for the wage history for my unemployment because of GOVERNMENT INTENTIALY DONE COVID-19 nor for the work I did for labor ready now people ready and Labor Masters. I worked for People Ready $85.00 multiple times at the Fargo Dome cleaning stadium stairs and multiple times working at RED RIVER COMMITIES IN FARGO for LABOR MASTERS $0 its. It’s really sad when ur work isn’t even reported or gets stolen from the person that says they love and REALLY SACRIFICE FOR UNLIKE CHRISTOPHER FOSTER’S COLORADO POST ON HIS FACE BOOK WEARING GOLD CHICAGO BULLS HAT. AFTER I GOT IN COLORADO MARCH 17. 2019 SAYS “LADIES FIND A MAN WHO SACRIFICES “ AND SUSAN LIKES IT OF COURSE BUT HE DOESN’T KNOW I WAS TAKING CARE OF 4 5 kids TWO NEW BORN BABIES and WORKING 60 to 70 HOURS GETTING NO SLEEP AND GETTING UP AT 5 am AND SOMETIMES GETTING HOME AT 9 at NIGHT, or WALKING TO WORK TAKING THE BUS IN NEGATIVE 10-25 DEGREE WEATHER GETTING FROSTBITE ON FINGERS AND THEN WORKING TEN HOURS ADAY BEING THE HARDEST WORKER TOO AND SEND 900$ to SUSAN AS LATER TELLS THE COURTS I HAVENT SENT NOTHING AND WHEN SHE SENDS ME 3 DOLLARS FOR LUNCH AND WHEN I SEND HER HUNDREDS DAYS BEFORE AND SENDS ME NOTHING FOR RENT NOR LUNCH FOR WORK AND LEAVING ME STARVING FOR DAYS EATING FLOUR PATTIES AND WATER FOR FOOD AS I SENT MONEY FOR DIAPERS AND MONEY FOR KIDS SHE SPENDS ON LIQUR AND STEAKS AND LOBSTER NOTHING FOR THE CHILDREN “ SICK AND DISGUSTING “ The courts of NORTH DAKOTA have me with the wrong name RONALD STEGAN JONES AND AFTER THEY SAID IT WAS A TYPO ON “ EVERY CASE HMMM” and have changed me court dates around and when I get lawyers as I did for my ASSAULT CASE HITTING RENE ONCE FOR CALLING ME “NIGGER” 6 times and asked to stop and charged with FELONY AGGRAVATED ASSAULT SERIOUS BOLDILY INJURY later dropped to simple assault misdemeanor Barley left a MARK ON HIS FACE AND AMBULANCE LEFT BEFORE I HIS WIFE GOT THERE LIKE TOTAL THREE MINUTES AND NOT TAKEN TO COURT IN WEST FARGO WHERE IT HAPPEND BUT TO FARGO . JOLSEY PIERCE GOT ME A LAWYER FOR $5,000 CASH AND TILL THIS DAY SAYS 5,000 BAIL AND ALSO SAYS 7 DAY STINT AND I WAS BAILED OUT ON THE 4 /1/2014 BUT THE HAVE ME BEING IN JAIL TILL 4/3/2014 WHICH WOULD BE 9 DAYS FROM MARCH 26,2014 AND JOLSEY PAID AND FINE 4/1/2019 that was for my fine for Burleigh County and when she picked me up with My friend Blue. SUSAN WOULD ALSO CALL THE POLICE GETTINF ME PULLED OVER 10 TIMES IN A 5 to 8 MONTH SPAN EVEN HAVE A STATE TROOPER PULL ME OVER 3 TIMES IN A WEEKS TIME AND EVEN AFTER I SPENT 800$ on CHRISTMAS PRESENTS AFTER MY $5,000 BONUS WHICH SHE ENDED UP STEALING FROM. SAY HER CAR WAS STOLEN WHEN I WAS DRIVING TO GET GROCERIES. Having A OFFICER PULL ME OVER SAYING I WAS GOING 50mph onto the RAMP THEN LIEING SAYING HE PULLED ME OVER BECAUSE THE LICENSE PLATE WOULD NOT COME UP WHEN HE RAN IT. LEAVING ME PAYING OVER $5,000 in bail MONEY. THEN AFTER I GOT MY LICENSE JULY 1 ,2019 I DROVE INTO THE AIR FORCE ACADEMY 3 times and when the fourth time I WAS TOLD MY LICENSE WAS SUSPENDED AND WENT BACK TO THE DMV TO PROVE IT HOURS LATER MISSING MORE HOURS FROM WORK “PRETTY SURE CHRIS FOSTER HAD SOMETHING TO DO WITH THAT”. Susan would call in an RECORD 40 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CALLS AND REPORTS EVEN 7 times WHEN SHE WAS HERE FOR TWO WEEKS NOT THREE IN OCTOBER 2020. EVEN WHEN SHE IS NOT IN THE STATE OR NOT EVEN BELIEVEABLE “WHEN I’M HAVING MY SON AND BOTH OF US ARE IN COLORADO” TO NORTH DAKOTA “SICK AND DISGUSTING” to take MY KIDS AWAY. SHE IS HAVING PEOPLE COMMIT CRIMES IN OTHER STATES USING MY IDENTITY as DONE IN SOUTH DAKOTA. My credit reports say DIFFERENT names addresses everything even after I call and mailed in the information to have them changed never being done. Being ACCESSED after “FRUAD Alerts and FROZEN” still able to have my current address 3140 Navigation Dr after I have changed and updated my address twice since October 2019. Have a credit bureau send 3 items in the same week names of RONALD S JONES, RONALD STEFAN JONES, and RONALD JONES TO THE SAME FEDERAL POST OFFICE IN FARGO ND AND NOTHING DONE AFTER REPEATEDLY SAYING MY MAIL IS BEING COMPERMISED stolen, not coming in or not being mailed to the right location and being redirected some how. Not having nothing mailed from Job Service North Dakota but one item saying I’ve used all my Regular benefits and my benefit year expired leaving me with not benefit what’s so ever but owe near $5,400 for just serveral weeks of unemployment as a “LAST RESORT” Susan has reach WELL OVER $100,000 “BETTER BELIEVE IT” by HER TAX RETURNS OF 10,000 USING MY KIDS not giving me DIME,USING AND ADJUSTING MY OWN TAXES “EVEN HAVING THE DOWNLOAD AND SUCKED OUT OF MY PHONE ALONG WITH PHONE NUMBERS” BETTER BELIEVE IT, TANIF, my STOLEN MONEY, INSURANCE SCAMS, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE GRANTS, STIMULUS AND Pandemic BENEFITS, LOW INCOME FRAUD WHEN MAKING OVER THE AMOUNT FOR WELFARE, and PUTTING ALL THE MONEY IN BANKS OVERSEAS CAPE TOWN SOUTH AFRICA ALONG WITH OTHERS. The states involved are COLORADO, NORTH DAKOTA, NORTH CAROLINA,TEXAS,PENNSYLVANIA, MICHIGAN,WISCONSIN,NEVADA,ARIZONA,GEORGIA,FLORIDA,VIRGINIA,OHIO,CALIFORNIA,WASHINGTON,HAWAII, SOUTH DAKOTA,MINNESOTA,LOUISIANA, OAKLAHOMA.
I HAVEN’T SEEN MY SON JR OR GRACIE IN A YEARS TIME AS OF RIGHT NOW AND HAVE NOT EVEN MET MY DAUGHTER LILY AND RIGHTS ILLEGALLY TERMINATED AND ADOPTED OUT BEFORE HER BIRTH BY SUSAN DAVENPORT BEYAN “SATANS WIFE”
Please HELP US PLEASE RESCUE MY KIDS AS WELL AS GRACELYN’S TWIN,GRACIE LILY AND JR MY ANGELS .WE NEED THE ANGELS FROM HEAVEN TO COME DOWN AND REUNITE US WE NEED INDIVIDUALS WHO ARE JESUS AND GOD LOVING TO STEP IN AND SAY “THAT’S ENOUGH” AND WONT LET US SUFFER ANYMORE. WE NEED GOOD TAKE OVER EVIL AND CAST IT AWAY FOREVER WE NEED ANGELS!!!!!!!! TO STOP OUR TEARS FROM ROLLING DOWN OUR FACES WE NEED ANGELS!!!!!!! TO SHOW US LIGHT WHEN ALL THERE IS DARKNESS AND HATE. WE NEED ABSOLUTELY ANGELS TO SAVE US!!!!!
FROM:RONALD STEFAN JONES D.O.B. 09/06/1988 born Franklin County Columbus OH lived in Cincinnati growing up. My ANGELS ARE IN COLORADO BUT WHERE ABOUTS NOT KNOWN ON EXACT LOCATION.
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2020.10.25 08:01 EstroJen The truth will set you free...but also get you into a lot more trouble.

I finally confronted my mom on her "discipline" being more like physical abuse (threw things at me, dug her nails into my leg, sat on me, etc.) and that I was upset that she let her boyfriend live with us while I was in high school. Her boyfriend who once was a half-decent father figure to me as a kid, began saying very inappropriate things to me once I hit puberty. My mom called him out on it a few times, but he still lived with us until I was a senior in high school. When I finally said something, she said, "well, you never said you were uncomfortable", and immediately I felt like "shit, it's my fault that I didn't speak up." The thing is, she was completely aware of his actions, and she was an adult! It was her place to protect ME. I was a teenager and because my mom was sometimes pretty angry, there was no way I was able to speak up for myself. I let her steamroll me on so many things and I missed really great opportunities because I let her tell me what to do.
I have a therapist who I trust. I'm 39 now, and I've held all of this inside until this year when I guess it all clicked inside my head. It really wasn't until I was dating someone I thought I could have kids with (I'm child-free for the most part) and I thought, "Could I leave this baby with my mom?" and the intense, immediate answer in my head was, "FUCK NO!" I partially felt like "why do I not react the same for myself? Why am I not keeping myself away from her?" and also "I've wasted my whole life being miserable." Why wasn't I able to speak up when I had stable relationships? Was I just not ready, or was I afraid that no one would believe me?
I'm thinking I should change my locks because my mom has a key. I don't think she'll try anything because I have cameras in my house (so I can watch my dogs during the day!) and she knows it.
Going back to how she reacted to me calling her out on bad behavior: You know how I react if I realize I hurt someone? I apologize until everything is cleared up. I do what I can do to make things right. Because it doesn't matter if I actually do something wrong, it matters that they feel slighted. I try my best to be decent. I'm mad that she didn't apologize to me, instead citing that she was intentionally tough on me so I'd turn out OK. Violence is not discipline. Violence breaks children and causes mental illness.
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2020.10.25 07:40 TheStockyScholar Yay life I guess...(Description of my personal hell)

So, for the past couple months I’ve been slowly pruning my social media... I’m only on Reddit now, obviously, and Facebook for a political activism group I am debating leaving since I’m barely active in there anyway. (Probably due to my depression and abstaining from mainstream politics as I feel like the odd man out hating this election like last election...)
I digress, the point of this post is a detailed description of my pain and sorrow. An unfettered look into my psyche with as much articulative knowledge from the English language as I can muster up. I want to be fully forward... I never have been and no one ever listened...even if no one cares.
For the longest time, I’ve gone through multiple layers of hell. Each one more arduous than the last so much so I feel as though I’ll break eventually but they all center one or two aspects of the human condition:
Love/Loneliness and sociality
My hell is also self-perpetuated but fueled off of every negative event I’ve gone through. Seeking negativity was a sickness because I was extremely accustomed to it. It was the only way anyone acknowledged me as a child, a teenager, and now a man if you can even call me one...
Growing up, I was surrounded by very devout and aggressive southern baptists. Violence was always the answer and I was the odd man out as a pacifist. My mother was never really there. She’d work two jobs...sometimes three, to make ends meet while being married to my step-father.
I never knew my father besides one time where I spent a night at his motel with his new wife and daughters...awkwardly. And another when my grandfather called him to invite him down while my parents were visiting him. They fought like hell and I watched them fight while my mom talked to her cousin like nothing happened.
I was taught to respect my step-father because he was “there” and “paid his way”...when he was only there to beat me sometimes amor find the littlest imperfection I exuded. Oh, and he still works at the same job while my mom became a doctor.
I never really told my mom until recently and just as the time when I was a six year old I knew she’d blame it on me and my “jealousy” trying to ruin her marriage. She justified his abuse saying he grew up with a terrible drunk father.
I guess, subconsciously, I acted out and pissed him off because at least when he calmed down he said he loved me more.
School was usually the same way. I acted out and talked because then people would actually notice my existence. I was an “attention whore”... even when bullies hated me it felt good to not be ignored.
Then middle school came and high school where I let boys who didn’t know if they were gay touch and molest me if they wanted...it bothered me to be used by those who thought my existence was an abomination but I felt good in a sick way being used.
Then undergraduate college came: long story short I was ostracized from a “friend” group that I was active in and helpful in. Accused of sexual harassment, given death threats, shunned my fellow classmates, manipulated by multiple men I dated, raped and used by someone I trusted, and blocked out of everyone’s lives on social media.
Everywhere I went. I was despised and hated. No matter how hard I tried to be a positive person, to care and love for people, I was used like a cumrag and thrown away. I exude darkness.
So, I snapped. I became a hardcore nihilist and tried to kill myself multiple times to which my mother retorted “I bet you were praying to Jesus then, huh?”
As loving as she can be she can be very vindictive and precise with her words...so much so it feels like the person you love stabbed you with a knife in your throat wondering if it was all worth it to struggle against the precipice of death.
One thing is for certain...only adrenaline and cortisol kept me alive. That was all.
Today, I’m alive. I’m not okay but I’m alive and I guess that’s something.
Despite this hell on earth I want to do great things for humanity and I hope to achieve it. I will at least try.
I’ve talked to many therapists and tried many psychotropic medications for several years to no avail and to little to no success.
I hate I know the blueprint of what to do to but the architecture of my brain has grown a cage around that awareness and clairvoyance like the developmental neuroplasticity of my brain from the BEGINNING is hard wired for misery.
It’s akin to knowing and being aware of all that is wrong and you wish you could make people see but you can’t and they never will see.
So, I’ll probably just go back to the gay dating apps...and mindlessly peruse them thinking I have any chance. Then delete them when I can’t take it anymore. Then redownload them and look for approval and worth with sex. Ad infinitum ad mortem...
Not sure if I’ll ever get better or improve sufficiently enough for myself. How could I when I’m so broken from others and myself? Is my individuality an error?
Why am I everything abominable to everyone: a gay, black, fat, weird, ugly, disgusting person...
Why is it so hard? Why can’t I just be loved for fucking once? Why is it bad to be needy? Why is it bad to want to be loved? I would give my all to someone and more.
I am a being of love who never has it requited and never will. I feel meant for it and I starve and die slowly without it. It is a basic need just like a bird needs to fly but even they get caged...and when you are caged, psyche and all, you stop trying to fly...and maybe the wings are useless and maybe they should be pruned...
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2020.10.25 07:39 TheStockyScholar I wish I could be done...but I won’t be...and that is what is most pathetic of all.

So, for the past couple months I’ve been slowly pruning my social media... I’m only on Reddit now, obviously, and Facebook for a political activism group I am debating leaving since I’m barely active in there anyway. (Probably due to my depression and abstaining from mainstream politics as I feel like the odd man out hating this election like last election...)
I digress, the point of this post is a detailed description of my pain and sorrow. An unfettered look into my psyche with as much articulative knowledge from the English language as I can muster up. I want to be fully forward... I never have been and no one ever listened...even if no one cares.
For the longest time, I’ve gone through multiple layers of hell. Each one more arduous than the last so much so I feel as though I’ll break eventually but they all center one or two aspects of the human condition:
Love/Loneliness and sociality
My hell is also self-perpetuated but fueled off of every negative event I’ve gone through. Seeking negativity was a sickness because I was extremely accustomed to it. It was the only way anyone acknowledged me as a child, a teenager, and now a man if you can even call me one...
Growing up, I was surrounded by very devout and aggressive southern baptists. Violence was always the answer and I was the odd man out as a pacifist. My mother was never really there. She’d work two jobs...sometimes three, to make ends meet while being married to my step-father.
I never knew my father besides one time where I spent a night at his motel with his new wife and daughters...awkwardly. And another when my grandfather called him to invite him down while my parents were visiting him. They fought like hell and I watched them fight while my mom talked to her cousin like nothing happened.
I was taught to respect my step-father because he was “there” and “paid his way”...when he was only there to beat me sometimes amor find the littlest imperfection I exuded. Oh, and he still works at the same job while my mom became a doctor.
I never really told my mom until recently and just as the time when I was a six year old I knew she’d blame it on me and my “jealousy” trying to ruin her marriage. She justified his abuse saying he grew up with a terrible drunk father.
I guess, subconsciously, I acted out and pissed him off because at least when he calmed down he said he loved me more.
School was usually the same way. I acted out and talked because then people would actually notice my existence. I was an “attention whore”... even when bullies hated me it felt good to not be ignored.
Then middle school came and high school where I let boys who didn’t know if they were gay touch and molest me if they wanted...it bothered me to be used by those who thought my existence was an abomination but I felt good in a sick way being used.
Then undergraduate college came: long story short I was ostracized from a “friend” group that I was active in and helpful in. Accused of sexual harassment, given death threats, shunned my fellow classmates, manipulated by multiple men I dated, raped and used by someone I trusted, and blocked out of everyone’s lives on social media.
Everywhere I went. I was despised and hated. No matter how hard I tried to be a positive person, to care and love for people, I was used like a cumrag and thrown away. I exude darkness.
So, I snapped. I became a hardcore nihilist and tried to kill myself multiple times to which my mother retorted “I bet you were praying to Jesus then, huh?”
As loving as she can be she can be very vindictive and precise with her words...so much so it feels like the person you love stabbed you with a knife in your throat wondering if it was all worth it to struggle against the precipice of death.
One thing is for certain...only adrenaline and cortisol kept me alive. That was all.
Today, I’m alive. I’m not okay but I’m alive and I guess that’s something.
Despite this hell on earth I want to do great things for humanity and I hope to achieve it. I will at least try.
I’ve talked to many therapists and tried many psychotropic medications for several years to no avail and to little to no success.
I hate I know the blueprint of what to do to but the architecture of my brain has grown a cage around that awareness and clairvoyance like the developmental neuroplasticity of my brain from the BEGINNING is hard wired for misery.
It’s akin to knowing and being aware of all that is wrong and you wish you could make people see but you can’t and they never will see.
So, I’ll probably just go back to the gay dating apps...and mindlessly peruse them thinking I have any chance. Then delete them when I can’t take it anymore. Then redownload them and look for approval and worth with sex. Ad infinitum ad mortem...
Not sure if I’ll ever get better or improve sufficiently enough for myself. How could I when I’m so broken from others and myself? Is my individuality an error?
Why am I everything abominable to everyone: a gay, black, fat, weird, ugly, disgusting person...
Why is it so hard? Why can’t I just be loved for fucking once? Why is it bad to be needy? Why is it bad to want to be loved? I would give my all to someone and more.
I am a being of love who never has it requited and never will. I feel meant for it and I starve and die slowly without it. It is a basic need just like a bird needs to fly but even they get caged...and when you are caged, psyche and all, you stop trying to fly...and maybe the wings are useless and maybe they should be pruned...
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2020.10.25 05:47 ModeratorsOfArmenia Azerbaijan-Turkey war against Artsakh [Day 29]

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What is all this about? (updated Oct 24)
  • On Sept 27 Azerbaijan with direct involvement of Turkey using its Jihadist mercenaries from Syria and elsewhere launched a devastating war against the de facto Nagorno Karabakh Republic in an attempt to resolve the lingering Karabakh conflict using extreme and remorseless violence despite the existing peace process while rejecting UN's calls to stop fighting and also rejecting UN's appeal for a global ceasefire due to the pandemic.
  • Independent organisations have raised alarms of genocide (23 Oct), ethnic cleansing and a humanitarian catastrophe for the sieged indigenous Armenian population of Nagorno Karabakh.
  • Azerbaijan has intentionally violated international law by severely damaging 130 cities and villages including the capital of Nagorno Karabakh Stepanakert using aerial bombings, drone attacks, precision missiles, smerch, semi-ballistic strikes and artillery means as well as usage of cluster bombs against civilian settlements causing half of the Armenian civilians to be forced to leave and the remaining to live in underground shelters.
  • As of Oct 24 Azerbaijan's concerted destruction against the ethnic Armenian civilians of Nagorno Karabakh has resulted in 40 civilian killed, 120 wounded and 13100 civilian infrastructure destroyed, including homes, apartments, hospitals, schools, civilian vehicles as well as key civilian infrastructure vital to the survival of the civilian population. The destruction includes cultural heritage manifested by the bombing of a 19th century Armenian church.
  • As of Oct 24, Armenian KIA amount to a thousand, making it higher per capita than the KIA of the Vietnam War.
  • Neither the maxim of "there is no military solution to the conflict" always repeated by the US, France, EU, NATO, among others, nor all the calls for an unconditional ceasefire and resumption of negotiations made by the UN, EU, NATO, France, Russia and the US, among others, nor the two humanitarian ceasefires brokered by Russia and France which were summarily violated by Azerbaijan with backing from Turkey, have persuaded the latter to halt the violence.
  • As of Oct 24, after all the devastation, heavy destruction of armour of both sides, and over 6000 killed personnel of the Azerbaijan Armed Forces, Turkish-backed Jihadi mercenaries, and Turkish Armed Forces, as per the military leadership of Armenia, Azerbaijan is in control of some of the southern areas of the surrounding territories to the south and a small portion to the north east - all of them low lands.
What's up with Nagorno Karabakh?
  • Nagorno Karabakh has been an officially bordered self-governed autonomous region since 1923 which de facto became independent from the Soviet Union before Armenia and Azerbaijan gained their independence. Nagorno Karabakh has never been governed by the state of Azerbaijan and has never been under control of an independent Azerbaijan.
  • Nagorno Karabakh has had continuous majority indigenous Armenian presence since long before Azerbaijan became a state in 1918. Karabakh Armenians have their own culture, dialect, heritage and history going back millennia.
  • Nagorno Karabakh does not have the status of an occupied territory and it is not referred to as such by the international community, the UN, OSCE, third party experts, and all reputable international media. Nagorno Karabakh is considered by the international community as a break-away enclave where its Armenian indigenous population has agency with legal backing. Nagorno Karabakh Autonomous Oblast as was known during the USSR-era made several petitions to join Armenia, the last one backed by the European Parliament in 1988, culminating in an independence referendum.
  • The final status of Nagorno Karabakh is pending the UN-mandated OSCE settlement as also agreed to by Azerbaijan on the basis of the Helsinki Final Act of 1975 among other norms of international law. The UN-mandated OSCE led by the US, France and Russia, and backed by the UN, EU, NATO and Council of Europe, among others, non-optionally applies the principle of self-determination to Nagorno Karabakh.
  • There are four existing UN Security Council resolutions from 1993 which called for cease of hostilities and mandated the conflict to be settled under the OSCE framework, with the latter determining the final status of Nagorno Karabakh. These resolutions were triggered because of the capture of surrounding territories around Nagorno Karabakh by the Nagorno Karabakh forces during the final months of the Karabakh War in 1993. These resolutions do NOT recognise Nagorno Karabakh as occupied; do NOT demand withdrawals from Nagorno Karabakh; do NOT recognise Armenia as having occupied any territories; do NOT demand any withdrawals by Armenia from any territories - which is why there were no grounds for invoking Chapter VII either.
  • Same as above also applies to the only other existing non-binding 2008 UN General Assembly resolution which was rejected by the OSCE co-chairs (US, France and Russia) for attempting to bypass the UN-mandated OSCE framework to determine the final status of Nagorno Karabakh. The vast majority of UN member states abstained from voting in favour of this Azerbaijani-drafted unilateral resolution, and the vast majority of states which voted in favour were members of OIC and GUAM.
  • The ceasefire agreement of 1994 had three signatories: Armenia, Azerbaijan and Nagorno Karabakh.
  • This is an authoritative map of Nagorno Karabakh with the surrounding territories with original place names courtesy of Thomas de Waal.
  • The Crisis Group's Karabakh Conflict Visual Explainer has a detailed timeline of the conflict.
  • The constitution of the de facto republic states that Nagorno Karabakh Republic and Artsakh Republic are synonymous, while not laying claim on the surrounding territories.
Is there a peace plan?
Is there a neutral narrative of the conflict?
  • UK-based Conciliation Resources helped Armenian and Azerbaijani journalists to jointly produce a neutral documentary where everything you see and hear is agreed by both parties, watch it online here. Tom de Waal's Black Garden book is considered to be a comprehensive and balanced work on the conflict.
I do not live in Armenia, how can I help?
Disclaimer: Borders are fluid in 5th generation wars. Fog of war exists. Official news is not independent news. Some sources of information are of unknown origin, such as Telegram channels often used to report events by users. There are independent journalists from reputable international media in Nagorno Karabakh.
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2020.10.25 04:30 CurrentRoster Fates of characters I believe happened [SPOILERS]

Tony: dies in that restaurant. His wake makes global news and a bigv gigantic portrait of Tony hangs in his house
Artie: still doing his restaurant or retired, most likely was seriously depressed if Tony dies. Made up with Benny at Tony’s wake.
Charmaine: still wanting her muzzle rubbed and possibly is still together with Artie. Possibly had restaurant renovations
Benny Fazio: either underboss or killed for unknown reason. Sounds weird for him to be boss but yeah. But I’m mostly leaning on killed for unknown reason.
AJ: rises up as a screenwriter, writes a spec and a bible. received a Writers Guild Award for Best Episodic Comedy nomination for writing the pilot episode of his comedy-drama tv series entitled “The Passion”. Unfortunately, the shows only Emmy nomination was for Best Sound Editing. Season 2 received a highly mixed reception and lower viewership, getting cancelled by Fox. I doubt he ever married. He gives up being a writer and does something else — becomes employed at Ramsey Sports and Outdoors, which was taken over by Little Paulie after Tony’s demise. He receives another panic attack while learning how to barbecue and sees another therapist — Dr Elliot K. AJ tries to avenge his father’s death by bringing a knife on him every other day. No luck yet, the dude’s been trying for 12 years. He lives in the safe house from the series finale.
Meadow: broke up with Pat after getting cheated on, dates another guy and gets broken up by him. Dates another guy, breaks up with him after being cheated on. Completely gives up on dating men and secretly becomes a lesbian. Having hot sex with Hunter Or some random friend. Most likely has a high ranking position in law like managing partner. Lives in Whitecaps house. 24/31 of her cases were a success.
Paulie: most likely died of old age/health problems 3 years after Tony. He died at a sit down, discussing a Getrimano crime family deal on how they’d split the profits of a joint business. His last words were: “he he” when Benny Fazio made a joke. Buried beside his “mother” and had a wake. Not a “we’re sorry for your loss” wake. More of a “we’re here for the manicott and gabagool” wake. Long live Grandpa Munster.
Silvio: survived the gunshots miraculously and has a big celebration at the Bing. Walks with a semi-noticeable limp. assumes the role of boss and doesn’t go well at first but gets better as he continues. He later gets a lot more mobsters and the family grows again. A new crime family forms in a neighboring city called the Getrimano family. Originally wanting to assume full control, thinking about a war, they settle their differences before any violence occurs and form an alliance sharing the streets of Jersey. It was Benny’s idea for a war and Silvio agreed, until Silvio calmed down the situation (as he always does).
Melfi: still being melfi. Still drinks wine at dinners, causing commotion. Feels guilty about Tony’s death after reading it in the papers, in the papers. Her husband chuckles at Tony’s death. Diagnosed with breast cancer in 2017. Also, she lives next door to Blanca’s brother.
Finn: I know he’s a minor character but I hope he escaped with Felicia and lived happily ever after.
Carlo Gervasi: killed by Benny Fazio and Little Paulie on orders from Paulie for turning into an informant, although he didn’t testify due to Tony dying. Clean hit, Benny and little Paulie ate burgers before it.
Junior: dies around 5 months after Paulie dies. Was unsuccessful in knowing where his money was, couldn’t give it to Bobby’s kids. His last words were: “did RFK get that cash? We used to play catch all the time in the....”
Jason Gervasi: did the crime, serving the time. Has a semi-good reputation because a New York crime family consigliere named Ignacio Ventimiglia is incarcerated and they have a decent friendship. But not for long....
Irina: She dates a tan Italian-American hunk. She later leaves him after realizing he’s not a mobster who’d support her needs. She flies back to Russia and is now their official whore.
Father Phil Intintola: after hearing about Tony’s death, he makes a eulogy at his funeral. He visits Carmela more than other people do. Carm is suspicious of Phil trying to get at her but dismisses that idea. He actually is though....
Janice: the ugly hag ends up arrested for some dumb shit. I guess sucking a cock in public maybe. Sil couldn’t get a proper attorney due to scheduling conflicts in the shipment of firearms. so the kids of Bobby are taken under the wing of Rosalie aprile. The firearms were for the turf war between the Getrimano family. But since that war never happened, Sil could have payed full attention to Janice and she got arrested for no reason.
Georgie Santorelli: becomes an informant after being arrested for public nudity (he was inebriated screaming “Fuck Jersey Nigga” repeatedly). In fact, the only informant the FBI was able to help survive. unfortunately for the feds, George could only give a few details of the Dante crime family (yep, changed the namesake). His snitching only led to the arrest of Patsy Parisi. He ended up in witness protection, lost a bunch of weight by eating egg noodles and ketchup. Lives next to Finn and Felicia.
Kelli Lombardo-Moltisanti: doesn’t re-marry. She is still financially supported by Silvio. Her daughter did finish 4th Grade, B- minus average. Kelli receives a threatening phone call by a Getrimano family capo. This was when they were gonna start a war, which didn’t occur.
Walden Belfiore: Becomes a capo, his crew has a hand in the fish market. Walden’s sister’s husband, Larry Cooper, becomes the new front operator for the Bada Bing, following the disappearance of informant Georgie S. He doesn’t get with buckets but Larry is the weak, loud type.
Patsy Parisi: arrested due to Georgie’s little information, forms an alliance with Ignacio. Patsy convinces him to turn on Jason Gervasi, they both pull an Oz by slipping glass in Jason’s food for a week until Jason dies from internal hemorrhaging. Patsy and Ignacio blamed on two black Gus and they rule the prison together.
Rosalie: Found a tan Italian-American hunk who helps her in a lot of things, Irina’s lover. Forms a close bond with Bobby’s kids, adopting them. Only visits Janice once a month. She’s happy.
Agent Harris: still banging that hot agent. They get married and whatnot. He wants to investigate the possible Getrimano-Dante turf war but is stuck in terrorism unit. He one day, while grocery shopping, sees an overweight black bald man named Huell. He doesn’t think much of it.
Jason Parisi: becomes the new Jackie Jr. Killed by Soprano crime family associate Umberto “Bertie Boy” Mensiano on orders from Silvio Dante for hijacking a truck. Jason thought the truck was for the Getrimano family, but was actually for the Dante crime family. Mensiano made his bones with that murder, becoming a member of the Belfiore crew as a soldier.
Carmela: finds another man if Tony was killed. But years later after his death, as she’d be emotionally destroyed to date another man after a few months or something. Gets her life together and focuses on real estate fully, partnering with Tony’s other sister Barbra in investing in houses. Gets rid of the water in the pool. She one day finds a camera under the living room couch while cleaning, consisting of footage from her father’s birthday barbecue. It’S a close up footage of her ass and she still doesn’t know who did it.
That’s all I can muster out.
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2020.10.25 04:12 whyamisosadplzhelp I recently got out of a extremely horrible relationship and now I don’t know what to do with myself.

Okay, this is going to be such a weird story but I promise it’s all true and I genuinely need help with this. I’m 19 I was dating a boy, We’ll call him Robert for 2 years. After about 8 months we moved in together which was really stupid of me but I thought I loved him so I did it anyways. When we moved in together things got really bad and I learned he had a porn addiction. We talked about it extensively and he said so many times he wanted to get better and he just needed me to support him and help him. So I did! I stayed with him and tried so hard to get him to go to therapy and help him and supported us and even held off going to college because he said he needed me to be available to text or call any time in case he was gonna relapse. I tried so hard to help him fix the whole thing. It all sort of came to a head about 4 months before we broke up when we got into a fight and I told him I just needed to go on a walk for a minute and I’d be back. When I came back he was watching porn in the living room and it was incest porn. This like kinda creeped me out? But I knew it was a really popular thing so I was just kinda like alright whatever let’s deal with the fact that you clearly just relapsed and not talk about the fact it was incest porn. A couple weeks after this he watched porn again and it was a video of a nurse and her “step son”. This SEVERELY creeped me out because his mom and all his aunts are nurses. I tried to bring it up and tell him this made me so uncomfortable and he basically lost his shit hit the walls punched a hole in the hall told me I should milk myself and stop bothering him and that everyone was into incest just a little.?????. At this point I was SEVERELY uncomfortable Around him but we had planned a road trip to visit his family across the state and I didn’t wanna back out bc I already took work off for it. So we’re sitting in the car for like 9 hours and talking about our relationship and basically he ends up telling me that- A.) He touches himself to fantasies of his aunts, mom, and cousins and B.) He thinks about them when we have sex. At this point I’m so exhausted and sad and angry that I don’t even say anything. We finish up the trip and I don’t say anything about the incest thing because I’m just so so tired. Basically after this I was so sad that I went on tinder and was trying to talk to new people and ended up meeting up with someone and having sex with them. I felt so horrible that I told him and he said it’s okay and we can work it out. We tried for about 2 months and then we got into an extremely horrible fight, the cops got called, I was so scared they would do something like tell the AG and press charges for domestic violence that I told my mom everything in a huge panic and she basically came over right away with my dad and told me we were getting my stuff and leaving right now before Robert gets home. That’s exactly what happened and basically that was the end of our relationship because my parents said if I ever talked to him again they would completely cut me out because of how horrible he is. Ever since all of this I’ve just felt so absolutely horrible. It’s been about 3 months and I feel like such an awful, horrible person for cheating and fighting and throwing things at him. I haven’t been able to eat anything hardly. I started school and I’m completely failing because I really can’t make myself get out of bed at all. Everything feels so awful and I genuinely hate myself for the things I did to contribute to the shitty awful relationship. I know the shit he said is so nasty but I feel horrible for my problems. I don’t know what to do from here... I feel completely defeated and like everything in my life is dead. If you’ve ever had to go through something like this please give me advice... I’m so sad and lost.
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2020.10.25 04:04 cortstone Starting the eviction process

I will have the narc served with a notice to vacate next week. I am also going to pre file for a protective order, so if she snaps I'll be able to get her out sooner. I am anxious, but also calm. It sort of feels like going to the Dr knowing you're gonna get a shot, but also knowing you'll feel better afterwards. I've successfully removed one of her flying monkeys, with countless more to go. She was using her teenage daughter (M) and her classmates as flying monkeys. So, I reached out to the mother of one of the girls (L) and told her everything. The abuse, how she (narc) uses children to gang up on me, including this lady's own daughter. The mom apologized for her child's involvement, told me that she has seen the way the narc treats M. I'm trying to use first initials because we're all female over here. I anticipate the narc's escalation, including violence, and I have alerted the authorities by calling them today to remove L from my property. This was before I spoke to L's mother. I also found out who the narc is secretly dating and I feel bad for the poor girl. She is head over heels in lovebomb and the narc lays it on thick. To her I am whatever the narc has told her, so there is no need to try to reason or defend myself. I am tired of being a doormat. If nothing else comes from this, I will be a stronger person when this is over and I will learn how to set boundaries. Thank y'all for reading this.
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2020.10.25 03:54 korean_labor_law Korean Law and Understanding Labor Laws

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1. Basic Structure

Understanding Labor Law is the most basic requirement for efficient human resource management. Human resource and labor managers implement their tasks on the basis of their knowledge of Labor Law. Labor Law is constantly being revised, so it is important to stay up-to-date on them. The following figure illustrates a systematic classification of Labor Law:

2. Categories of labor law

(1) Individual labor relations laws The individual labor relations laws define the relationship between individual employees and their employers. In other words, they provide legal criteria pertaining to a contract of employment between an employer and his/her employee, the contents of the employment relationship, and the procedural requirements for modifying or terminating the employment relationship, thus protecting working conditions for individual employees.
(2) Collective industrial relations laws The collective industrial relations laws govern labor relations between worker organizations, such as labor unions and employee representatives, and employers. These laws are intended to establish an autonomous problem-solving practice(labor-management autonomy) by guaranteeing the right to organize for all workers, particularly those who are underprivileged in social and economic terms, as compared to their employers, so that the former may be on an equal footing with the latter.

3. The Sources of Labor Laws and the Order of Priority

(1) Types of Labor Laws The sources for the labor laws are reference rules that the judges use in the court as the criteria of judgment on the disputes related to labor laws. The sources for the Labor Laws are:
① the Constitution,
② Related Labor Laws,
③ Common Law,
④ Self-governing rules,
⑤ International Labor Laws.
(2) Conflicts in the sources of laws and their effects
  1. Principle of priority on higher laws-Higher laws are preferred to lower laws(e.g. constitution is higher than the Labor Standards Act).
  2. Principle of priority on special laws-Special laws are preferred to general laws(e.g. Labor Standards Act > Civil Law).
  3. Principle of priority on most recent laws-When two laws are applicable to the same situation, the law that has been most recently revised is preferred.
  4. Principle of priority on better conditions-Labor Laws promoting better working conditions are preferred over the ‘principle of priority on higher laws.’

4. Labor Laws in Relation to Other Laws

(1) In relation to Civil Law(Additional Translation) Labor Laws originating from the principles of civil law are generally applied under the Civil Law. Though civil law is based upon principles such as the absolute principle of ownership, the principle of freedom to contract, and the principle of self-responsibility in accidents, this has only induced greater social inequality between people. Hence, Labor Laws have been constituted to reform the inequality. Accordingly, principles under Civil Law have been applied to working conditions unregulated by Labor Law. These include the principle of faith and sincerity and the principle of preventing the abuse of rights.
(2) In relation to Criminal Law(Punishment for Off-limit) Labor Laws are regulations that must be strictly enforced since punishment will result if violated. Given that working conditions regulated under the Labor Standards Act are mere minimum standards, violators are subject to criminal punishment in case of any violation. In cases where worker's rights disagree with the employer's ownership rights, a labor union's counteraction, such as a strike for the betterment of working conditions, is exempt from civil or criminal liability. However, any violence or destruction caused as a result of the labor union's activities will not be tolerated(Article 3,4 of the Labor Union Act).
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2020.10.25 03:04 kymberleyraee Idk what I’m doing.

I’ve never posted to Reddit before. To be honest, I’m nervous. I always hear good things, but I’m too scared to actually post something.
Actually, I’m too scared to do anything for myself.
I was bullied all my life for marching to the beat of my own drum. I had no choice. My home life wasn’t great. My parents constantly screamed and fought with each other. My mom made me feel like I was lying every time I spoke. My dad was emotionally not there and never said anything. I would get so mad when telling my truth or being true to myself because I was constantly told I’m wrong/I’m lying/I’m not being truthful. My mom wanted an “open and honest relationship” which required her to know everything about me and then make fun of me and criticize my way of thinking. She’d read my diaries/journals. She’d love my friends and hug them, but I had to GTFO of her face. She had a coke problem when I was a kid and I never even knew.
I lied so much to get myself out of my family. I would hide in the racks at the store in hopes my family would forget me at the stores. I would purposely get lost in the stores to walk up random strangers saying I lost my parents. Hoping that when “I was found” I’d get that big relief reaction. That “oh my god, thank god you’re okay!!” reaction. Instead, they thanked the stranger, and ripped me a new ass all the way home.
Kids at school called me IT, like “A Child Called It.” I’d be walking on the sidewalk looking down and all the kids would say “Sh sh, IT’S coming.” Stop talking, then giggled. The teachers heard and saw. They just didn’t do anything. I would ask to go to the nurse a lot, just so I could tell her I didn’t feel good just to lay down in the office with the lights off and cry. She knew there was something wrong. So she never said no. I spent so many days in that room crying alone, wondering why I was hated the moment I was born.
I failed classes or would forget homework a lot because I never knew how my home life would be that night. Instead of teachers asking my parents what was wrong, they gave me 0s and placed me in “special classes.” You can guess what happened to me next.
It wasn’t until freshman year when I had enough of the bullying. I took a swing on a girl in the locker room for whipping her towel at me. Got sent to the office for fighting and came home to my parents proud of me because I stood my ground. My dad and I would play knuckles a lot. Or we’d have punching competitions to see who hit the hardest. Guess this was the only way I got to bond. My brother would squeeze my pressure points behind my earlobe until I was crying for him to stop. All my cousins were boys who wrestled and they never went easy on me. My sister would say she was my friend, then make fun of me. Tell me my mom doesn’t love me. Tell me I was found in a dumpster. Tell me I needed to find a new family to live with. Some people say “oh that’s just sister things.” But a lot of the sisters I’ve met have never said the things she’s said to me to their sister.
Once I started fighting, I had a “who’s gonna mess with me??” Attitude. Always alert. Always suspicious of who was talking about me. I feared nobody. Graduated high school and a few years later, I’m moving into a house with my ex and his family because my parents decided to get a divorce. I’m twenty years old. The relationship went south fast and the bruises added up constantly. It was as if I met my biggest bully.
Finally left him close to 4 years later where weed and alcohol became my support. I started therapy and my therapist kept leading my life back to “being sexually abused” which I deeply don’t think happened. I think I just was never loved or noticed and I acted out with violence and sex and drugs, which made people like me.
Fast forward and I’m now 28 years old, dating someone new, and literally driving myself insane. I knit pick, I’m OCD how I like the canned goods in the cabinet, I have to have control, I’m sensitive, yet run my mouth & can’t stop. I can’t control my anger. Quotes don’t help. Mediating isn’t working. Therapy can be too pricey. I’m at a complete loss because I’m ruining something with a guy who thinks my quirkiness is cute and thinks I’m a great person.
I’m constantly looking for reassurance, my mood goes from really high to really bland to really low. Luckily not all in one day, but weeks. Then I hit a manic anxiety ridden moment where all my thoughts good bad & ugly just hit me at once. Then I’m told I’m too sensitive, too weak, too caring of what people think, too aggressive, too paranoid, too stressed, too tired, too this .. too that. I try to stay true to my boundaries and say no this is how I feel, so not belittle how I feel...only finding myself just apologizing for even having boundaries. I’m always thinking about what’s wrong with me, what I need to work on, what I can do to be a better person, etc. My boyfriend says that I need to stop thinking and just start being myself. As soon as I try, I’m picking fights & I’m doing something wrong. Or my tone is wrong. My attitude is wrong. When I point it out that I’m always feeling it’s my fault, I’m told I’m playing victim. I can’t be understood without making someone upset.
They say to love someone you have to love yourself first. But what if you’ve never experienced real love from the core people who are supposed to show you?
So I guess to wrap this up...I feel better writing this. I’m still confused on how I fix this or learn to live with this or how to manage this.
Thank you if you read this. All ages me thanks you for hearing me and not telling me I’m wrong.
Can someone help?
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2020.10.25 02:10 QuantityMean Mental health and shit idek

TW: mental illness, self-harm, domestic violence
I haven't been feeling good at all mentally. Last night, my boyfriend's step dad hit his 15 year old brother. I think his mom is kicking his step dad out. He has done a lot of sketchy shit before. My boyfriend and I are both scared he will come back and hurt someone. I know that if he does, we can call 911 or CPS. But we really don't want to have to.
I feel like absolute shit. My bf talked to his uncle last night, who said they should move downstate with him. If that actually happens I will lose him. I've felt depressed and anxious and hopeless before but I don't know if I've ever felt this bad. I know my bf is going through a lot and I don't want to dump my emotions on him or overwhelm him or act like this is about me.
This isn't about me.
But I'm so scared. I've known him for years, and we've been dating for a year and a half. I am so scared of losing him. I'm scared of his step dad hurting him. I'm scared of having to break up. I can't lose him. He's my world. I feel so so scared and dissociated, but my brain keeps yelling at me to not make this about me. I can't explain how bad I feel. I want to be able to live with him and be financially stable and have better mental health and be a better person but this world seems so cruel right now and I'm so scared. Nothing is guaranteed and I'm scared of everything going to shit. Sometimes I fear he doesn't love me anymore. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't. I can barely eat and I feel like I'm in literal hell and my vision is blurry and my head is pounding. And whenever I feel bad mentally I feel guilty. I want to feel like he loves me and I want to be happy and feel okay again but I feel so so low. It's 8 PM and I don't have the energy to fix anything. But I'd feel so so guilty and I'd just make everything worse if I hurt myself, which I haven't done in a long time. So I'm just stuck here and I know it's going to be a long night.
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2020.10.25 02:02 autotldr Taliban Kills at Least 23 Afghan Soldiers in Latest Attacks

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ISLAMABAD - The Taliban has killed at least 23 Afghan soldiers in fresh attacks, as a stalemate persists in U.S.-brokered peace talks under way in Qatar.
Afghan security forces have sustained a number of casualties in recent weeks in battles with the Taliban.
The Afghan air force carried out an airstrike in Takhar on Wednesday against the assailants, hitting a mosque school and killing at least 12 children, while another 18 were injured.
The U.N. Assistance Mission in Afghanistan has reported that women and children comprised 65 percent of the civilian casualties from airstrikes by the Afghan air force for the first half of 2020.?. Gossman lamented the Afghan government has "a poor record" of investigating such incidents and no one has been held accountable to date.
The uptick in violence comes as month-long direct peace talks between the Taliban and representatives of the Afghan government in the Qatari capital of Doha continue to face a stalemate over procedural matters.
The dialogue, which seeks a permanent cease-fire and a political power-sharing deal between the Afghan rivals, stems from a February conditional agreement between the U.S. and the Taliban aimed at ending the 19-year-old war.
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2020.10.25 01:57 QuantityMean Mental health and shit idek

TW: mental illness, self-harm, domestic violence
I haven't been feeling good at all mentally. Last night, my boyfriend's step dad hit his 15 year old brother. I think his mom is kicking his step dad out. He has done a lot of sketchy shit before. My boyfriend and I are both scared he will come back and hurt someone. I know that if he does, we can call 911 or CPS. But we really don't want to have to.
I feel like absolute shit. My bf talked to his uncle last night, who said they should move downstate with him. If that actually happens I will lose him. I've felt depressed and anxious and hopeless before but I don't know if I've ever felt this bad. I know my bf is going through a lot and I don't want to dump my emotions on him or overwhelm him or act like this is about me.
This isn't about me.
But I'm so scared. I've known him for years, and we've been dating for a year and a half. I am so scared of losing him. I'm scared of his step dad hurting him. I'm scared of having to break up. I can't lose him. He's my world. I feel so so scared and dissociated, but my brain keeps yelling at me to not make this about me. I can't explain how bad I feel. I want to be able to live with him and be financially stable and have better mental health and be a better person but this world seems so cruel right now and I'm so scared. Nothing is guaranteed and I'm scared of everything going to shit. Sometimes I fear he doesn't love me anymore. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't. I can barely eat and I feel like I'm in literal hell and my vision is blurry and my head is pounding. And whenever I feel bad mentally I feel guilty. I want to feel like he loves me and I want to be happy and feel okay again but I feel so so low. It's 8 PM and I don't have the energy to fix anything. But I'd feel so so guilty and I'd just make everything worse if I hurt myself, which I haven't done in a long time. So I'm just stuck here and I know it's going to be a long night.
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2020.10.25 01:51 Cryptolexicon These Judges are Targets - Female Supremacists will do anything, including making up False Sexual Allegations, to Bring them Down.

These Judges are Targets - Female Supremacists will do anything, including making up False Sexual Allegations, to Bring them Down.

Ryan Bounds
Ryan Bounds (Nominated to Ninth Circuit; Withdrawn) wrote an article arguing that schools should impose a higher standard of proof for sexual assault claims. The stringent “beyond a reasonable doubt” standard promoted by Bounds is typically reserved for criminal cases, whereas most schools use the “preponderance of the evidence” standard in their internal investigation of misconduct complaints.

Michael Brennan
Michael Brennan (Seventh Circuit) applauded the Supreme Court’s decision in United States v. Morrison, which struck down key parts of the Violence Against Women Act.

Daniel Collins
Daniel Collins (Ninth Circuit) argued in defense of Internet Brands, Inc. against negligence claims after a woman utilizing Internet Brands’ model networking website was lured into a fake audition and sexually assaulted.

Kurt Engelhardt
Kurt Engelhardt (Fifth Circuit), Advocacy groups really don't like the way he ruled on cases of sexual allegations.

Tomas Farr
Thomas Farr (Nominated to Eastern District of North Carolina; Withdrawn) supported a North Carolina bill that prevented women who were discriminated against or who were victims of sexual harassment in the workplace from filing a lawsuit in state court, calling it a “better policy for the state.”

Brett Kavanaugh
Brett Kavanaugh (Supreme Court) is still a target.

Kenneth Lee
Kenneth Lee (Ninth Circuit) showed skepticism regarding the reported prevalence of rape on college campuses. For this reason, he is a target.

Steven Menashi
Steven Menashi (Second Circuit) criticized “Take Back the Night” marches, which seek to end violence against women, writing “’Take Back the Night’ marches charge the majority of male students with complicity in rape and sexual violence (every man’s a potential rapist, they say, it’s part of the patriarchal culture).” As Acting General Counsel of the Department of Education he was intimately involved in the 2017 Title IX Question and Answer guidance document that rescinded Title IX guidance on schools’ responsibilities for protecting students from sexual harassment and violence; and he worked on the Department’s proposed rule on campus sexual assault.

Sarah Pitlyk
Sarah Pitlyk (Eastern District of Missouri) dismissed the credible accusation of sexual assault against Brett Kavanaugh as “direct character assassination” and a “last-ditch effort to block his path to the Supreme Court.” As a "Fake Sis", for not siding with Kavanaugh's accuser, she has become a target.

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Neomi Rao (D.C. Circuit) warned of “hysteria over date rape.” She argued, “a good way to avoid a potential date rape is to stay reasonably sober” and “if she drinks to the point where she can no longer choose, well, getting to that point was part of her choice.” OIRA, under Rao’s leadership, signed off on Education Secretary Betsy DeVos’s efforts to roll back protections for survivors of sexual assault on college campuses. The proposed rule, while not yet final, would make a series of changes to Title IX processes on college campuses that many survivor groups oppose.

Lee Rudofsky
Lee Rudofsky (Eastern District of Arkansas) argued that the Constitution prevents Arkansas from being sued for money damages under Title IX. If that were true, students would no longer be able to sue their school for money damages when the school mishandles their sexual assault claims.

David Stras
David Stras (Eighth Circuit) as a state court judge dissented in a case that held that trial judges had the ability in a rape case to allow expert testimony that contradicted the defendant’s claim of consensual sex.

Justin Walker
Justin Walker (DC Circuit; previously Western District of Kentucky) continued to defend then-judge Brett Kavanaugh even after multiple women credibly accused him of sexual assault.

Don Willett (Right)
Don Willett (Fifth Circuit), while on the Texas Supreme Court, limited the amount of compensation that a victim of workplace sexual harassment and assault can collect from her employer.
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